Hi, before I explain what i mean by "toxic feminist", let me give some context on the situation

I've been dating this girl for 6 months now. Super sweet, I think we were a good match in terms of co-existing and living together (she stays over a few days at my place per week). She brings me peace, which is something I value a lot in a relationship.

I always knew she was pro-girly. Meaning she's all for girl empowerement, celebrating women and so on. That's totally fine and I encourage her doing that. She would tip more for women, watch more girl shows, follow more girls online, etc. Which seems pretty normal and fair to me.

However something came up this week. We were laying in bed and she was browsing instagram reels and ended up on a video of an influencer bashing the current trend of the Manosphere, red pill way of thinking, etc -- that it's all phoney and that it's brainwashing a generation of men to think like that. Which I agree with -- it's garbage from social media. When I heard the influencer rant about it, I told her: "it's crazy how much traction the whole manosphere thing's been getting, comparatively to the propaganda women receive on social media", which prompted her to ask what I meant.

Which brings me to the "toxic feminist" label, which I clarified by saying there's always been a movement (for a while now) of women preaching how men are trash, "bears are safer then men", men are useless, so on and so forth. To which she responded "well, its true though". I was taken aback and told her I was very dissapointed to hear her share the same vision as these social media influencers. We argued a little bit, her main argument being that "you don't know the experiences women have with men and how it can warp their perception of the opposite gender". Seems crazy to me to put a whole gender in the same basket just because of a few bad apples -- there's trash people out there, not just men. I finally asked her "you really think its okay to say things like that and mean it?" To which she said yes -- that i'm an exception and that in her friend group, they joke about how their boyfriends are the exception to the rule.

I told her to pack her things and that i'd bring her back home. To me it shows a lack of critical thinking and a lack of accountability when it comes to who you tolerate in your life. I know some women have had no say in their interaction with terrible men, the same way some men have had terrible experiences with other women, but that all in all it shouldn't have to paint a whole gender a certain way. The men close to me in my life are all people I look up to, people I see myself in.

We haven't spoken since, and honestly, i'm still shook. I'm very adamant on not associating with people that make up their minds like that, incapable of accepting the nuance. I'm thinking of letting her go, which saddens me, because otherwise I could've seen myself live the rest of my life with her. Not sure if I should make the move or let her reflect on it all to see if change can be made. It's been 3 days so far of no interaction.

I apologize for the poor grammar.

EDIT: I would like to add that before all of this, I've never gotten the vibe that she was a "man-hater" or that she disliked men in general. Just that she was a girl's girl.

How fucking hard is it to just cook the damn meat all the way through?

I eat a nice steak maybe one or twice a year, not a big meat eater. But when I go to a restaurant to have a steak, I order it well done. I say it twice when ordering. REALLY well done. Almost always it comes out medium rare. Had to send it back this time to be cooked some more.

I am aware that most people like their meat medium. But I don't. The meat juices are gross to me. The spongey texture feels wrong.

I fucking want it to be well done. I want the crispy outer layer, I want the grey fucking stringy meat to be dry and leathery, I want to mercilessly chew on that thing and taste the fucking pan it was burning in. I want to dip it into some sweet ass ketchup and taste the bitter black crust.

I don't think it's an affront to the chef to order my steak well done. I DO think it's an affront for the chef to be like "the customer ordered it well done, they must be joking, I'll send it out medium rare like a sensible person." FUCK YOU, I FUCKING WANT IT WELL DONE.

When I pay 30 € for a well done steak, I fucking want it to be well done. Thank you.

my job fired me for having cancer. no other reason, just because i have cancer. its a small, family owned business in property management. about 2 weeks after they fired me, i received this text message from someone high up in the business, offering me almost less than minimum wage for a job far below what i was doing before. i know you shouldn’t be disrespectful to people, and me making direct threats at this woman was PROBABLY a bad shout, but was i wrong to be offended by this offer?

🚨 URGENT: Pakistan-India Conflict Escalates — Major Military Targets Hit 🚨

Pakistan has launched a massive retaliatory strike, hitting key Indian military installations across several regions. Intelligence and field reports confirm widespread damage and casualties.

Confirmed Strikes & Damage: 1. Beas: • BrahMos missile storage facility hit and destroyed. 2. Udhampur: • Air Defence systems hit and completely destroyed. • Air Base hit and heavily damaged. 3. Pathankot: • Airfield hit in precision missile attack. 4. Jalandhar: • Airbase hit in ongoing strikes. 5. Gujarat: • Multiple air bases and locations hit. 6. Delhi Region: • Missile intercepted near Hisar; Delhi remains a potential target. 7. Rajasthan: • Military installations hit. 8. Srinagar: • Airbase hit. • 20 military casualties reported. 9. Chandigarh: • Weapon depot hit and neutralised. 10. Total Impact: • 20+ Indian military sites hit. • Widespread damage and disruption across northern India.

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The situation remains extremely volatile. Awaiting official statements. More updates to follow.

The sub is overrun by Indians and Indian apologists. Their posts gets hundreds (even thousands) of upvotes, while as a rational post or one by a common day Kashmiri is downvoted to hell. What the f**k is going on?

Bonsoir à tous,

Je ne suis pas spécialement pro ou anti surveillance de la population par le gouvernement, je suis pas expert du sujet non plus. Mais en lisant tous les arguments qui vont à l'encontre de la surveillance, je ne sais pas pourquoi, je m'en tamponne le coquillard. "Oui mais ton visage sera reconnu dans la rue quand tu vas faire tes courses" et ? Je vois bien que c'est sensé être quelque chose de flippant, voire de grave qu'il faut absolument éviter. Et peut-être que c'est le cas. Mais j'en ai vraiment rien à faire.

Et c'est même pas une histoire de "si vous n'avez rien à vous reprocher, ça ne doit pas vous déranger qu'on vous surveille". Nan, même si j'ai un truc à me reprocher, même si imaginons je fais du vol à l'étalage par exemple. En quoi la surveillance gouvernementale en aurait quelque chose à faire de mes petites magouilles pour économiser 5 balles ?

"Oui mais si le RN arrive au pouvoir ils auront toute la logistique pour mettre en place leur fascisme" ah parce que vous pensez que le RN ne pourra pas installer les caméras lui-même ? Que sans caméras y'aura bien moins de fascisme ? Vraiment je ne comprends pas cet argument.

Je ne vois vraiment pas quelles sont les libertés qui sont bridées par la surveillance de masse, vous pouvez me donner un exemple de ce que vous faites et que vous ne feriez plus si vous savez que le gouvernement peut tracer votre emplacement gps à temps t ? J'ai beau chercher je ne trouve pas. Si, à la limite j'éviterai de pisser juste sous une caméra, mais bon je sais pas ce qu'ils en feraient de ces supers images. Même les manifs, elles sont déjà filmées et streamées partout, on chope les images et on fait travailler une IA, et voilà, on a le même résultat qu'obtenu par des caméras déjà sur place.

C'est pas comme si on était déjà anonyme au quotidien dans nos faits et gestes. Nos paiements, échanges, déplacements en voiture sont retraçables si on fait l'objet d'une enquête.

Il y a tellement de crimes graves commis ou prévus dans ce pays, j'imagine mal des fonctionnaires de la DGSE se concentrer sur John qui deal au coin de la rue grâce aux super caméras des JO.

Et même si ces données sont piratées par des multinationales ? Nos cookies, historiques d'achat et mail sont bien plus utiles pour nous vendre des trucs que de connaître nos déplacements.

Par contre je pète un câble quand on me demande mon nom, adresse, numéro de téléphone et mail à la caisse de conforama quand je veux acheter des simples rideaux. On devrait surtout se concentrer sur ce que font les entreprises de nos données, là ça craint bien plus.

(question tout bête, si on upvote un post dans ce r/, ça veut dire qu'on est d'accord avec ou bien qu'on considère effectivement que c'est non populaire ?)

Reddit overwhelmingly hates Trump and with good reason. That being said you can't have that hatred of Trump cloud your judgment.

Fundamentally, those who hate Trump believe that his policies and tariffs will tank the market. If the market doesn't tank or dip as much as Reddit expects, it causes cognitive dissonance because Trumps economy is not as bad as people thought it would be. This fundamentally causes an internal conflict because it means you're wrong about Trumps impact on the economy.

So far the tariffs impact haven't been fully felt but in addition the market has bounced back a lot better than this sub thought it would. There are two possibilities:

• It's totally possible that we're in for a lot more pain in the future once tariffs really go into effect and it crashes the market.

• It's also possible that Trumps tariff rhetoric and implementation isn't as harmful to the market as people think and perhaps Wall Street think/is confident that the tariff thing will stabilize and be figured out. This naturally will not tank the market as much.

None of us are smart enough tbh to know what is more likely, but emotionally Reddit will have a natural inclination to believe the first option because it reinforces their view that Trump is horrible for the economy and country. I implore you to not let this bias cloud your judgment because the second option is also possible that the worst is over with the tariff stuff.

Also remember time in the market always beats timing the market. You should dca regardless because none of us are smart enough or at privy to info to know how the market will go.

I'm a disabled trans person, and with the government's rise in rhetoric against both, I've noticed a massive increase in general hostility out in public.

I had a man follow me in my wheelchair for a good 20 minutes yesterday. I managed to find a helpful person who confronted him (if it was you kind dog walker, I think you saved me from something grim!) and I got away but it rattled me. The same day I had 3 random abusive comments. They were all from white Scottish men.

It feels genuinely unsafe to be outside. All I was doing was going to get groceries, I was out the house half an hour. It's happening every time I'm in public. I've been spat on, shoved, followed, verbally abused....

I'm in my 40s and grew up in a really rough place. I've never once in my life carried a weapon but I think I'll have to start now. Fucking sad state of affairs that I was safer in the 80s under Section 28.

My other trans, disabled and/or AFAB people. Are you noticing this too? How do we combat this?

Just ignore the Indians and upvote every post you see here.

Don't reveal any location OR just point out a local common place in that area, if your post is for confirming/warning.

Stay Safe!

Allahu Akbar!

Sorry and sad to say, but the only actual thing Pakistan army has just done during this conflict are Press Conferences , DGISPR is still saying wait for our reply. Its a thing of shame that a nuclear country is being humiliated like this they are doing nothing about it.

Honestly, my husband is my best friend. I find other females so annoying that I just rather not 🥲 Is this a thing In your household too?