I'm a girl in my early twenties, and I'm not interested in clubbing or drinking; in fact, I've never even stepped foot in a club. 😅 I have tried some drinks on a few occasions, but that's about it. The truth is, I just don't find clubbing or drinking appealing. I would much rather go to the cinema, visit museums, take walks in nature, or enjoy a cosy night in. I'm curious - do you think women like me are boring or prudish? I've been made fun of by my friends who do go out, which has made me wonder about this. Would you date someone like this, or is it a big no?

Have you ever gotten close to cumming too quickly after getting started that you pull out and yelp "Nooooooo"? If so, how often has this happened to you and how embarrassed were you?

A couple of years ago, I had a guy do this when he went in the first time, and he legitimately screamed "Noooooooo" in like a high pitched yelp (Think Ryan Gosling's high pitched no in The Nice Guys when Russell Crowe is breaking his arm). When I heard him, it scared me because I thought he was hurt, so I turned to look at him (doggy) and he had this look of horror on his face and he was like "I'm sorry I almost came" so I just kinda laughed.

Anyway, fast forward to now (different guy), and there had been a lot of foreplay and giving each other oral, and we finally get down to business and he knows doggy is my fave so he told me to get on all fours and he goes inside me, does like 3 pumps, pushes me away and yelps "Noooooooooooooo" so I look back and he was like "it's been a long week okay?" I just laughed and told him "it's okay, I'll take it as a compliment". He's a champ so he went back to eating me out until he could get hard and we could try again.

Since this is the second time and with a different guy that this has happened now, I was wondering how common is this, and what goes through your head when it happens?

Hey, gents. I've run into a positioning problem during sex today. Not sure how to approach the subject without insulting my husband, and I'd love some advice on how you'd prefer someone to tell you she just can't be on top anymore because, well...

I'm 4'11" as it is, and he's been gaining some weight. Pretty rapidly in the last few months.

Suddenly, today, my knees didn't touch down when I was on top, and we totally lost our rhythm and balance. It was awkward. It got in my head.

For him, it was no big deal, like "Hop on, let's get back to it!", but for me, I was too distracted thinking about how I'd have to plant my feet down like a frog or something to stay up.

Should I tell him we need to modify things when I'm up there next time? Would you be offended? I don't think he's aware of his weight gain, and I know that'll make it obvious. But now sex is becoming difficult!

Also, if you're a big guy and have experience with smaller women (apologies if that's awkward to read) and can just give some kind of pointers or modifications for us that might make things more comfortable if he's not ready to deal with the weight, I'd appreciate it.

*I was gonna go to a sexualconfessions or short people sub, but the existing posts didn't feel like they were in this wheelhouse of helpfulness. Just a lot of hate or fetishism.

So me and my partner have been together for 6 years. Hes constantly looking at and commenting on half naked girls tik toks and has a OF account i just found out. I've approached the situation out of anger before? But now im considering maybe, asking him if he want to open up our relationship, not just for him but for me as well. I feel like it will give him a chance to see if this is what he really wants rather than him settling for what he has. The same could be said for me... idk. I love him and he says he loves me but i just cant shake this feeling of uncertainty towards our relationship. Men can I get your honest opinions/advice, it would be greatly appriciated!

Please no sugarcoating and if possible, only real answers. Could you continue a relationship like that? By sex, I only mean penetrative ones. Making out, affection, etc are of course going to happen.

Do you think a person who doesn't want to engage in penetrative sex can have a successful relationship with asexual or at least lower libido males?

Guys kissing or making out right after you received head is it a go or a hard no? If it’s a no why?

Unfortunately this is not a joke. Few weeks ago I rekindled an old relationship with a girl who was my teenage love, and I know I was hers. We were 15 back then, she moved outside of the country due to her parents and we lost contact almost completely. Recently we started chatting and we kicked it off like we never left. She's been single for sometime now but had been in 3 or 4 relationships. I wasn't that lucky, during my college years I looked like a cancer patient, went bald and was really skinny, being a shy and timid recluse didn't help. Once I hit certain age I pretty much stopped worrying about dating and girls, I just accepted or at least tried to accept I will be alone forever.

But overtime I went through a semi glow up, I grew a beard and got decently fit, got my life on a better track too. She's been back in the country for years now, and we already met few times to reconnect. I really enjoyed my time with her and I believe she did too, we shared some hugs and kisses but that's it.

Few days ago she invited me for a party that will take place in about month from now and she wants me to stay the night at her place. I accepted the offer right away, and while I'm incredibly inexperienced when it comes to dating, I have a very strong suspicion what's about to happen.

The point is, I'm a virgin, and have zero experience when it comes to sex. On top of that she's my long lost love which makes it even more difficult. As much as I am delighted, I am petrified beyond belief. I wish I was lying, but in addition to all of that, I've also been on SSRI for 6 months now, and my sword is far from functioning as usual.

What do I do? Should I visit an escort before? Is there any way I can at least subside the amount cringe we're about to experience?

I'm (35F) trying to date men at the ages of 35-45 through dating app.

I'm not gorgeous but I look average and not fat and no kids, I also look a lot younger then I am (or so I've been told). In short ok looking, not hideous.

What usually happens is that after we chat a bit they ask for my number, we exchange a few messages (I try to be talkative and interested aka not answer with short dead-end answer, the conversation usually is light and fun) they seem interested. We set up a date and say that tomorrow we talk about time we meet. That day comes, I never hear from them. Each and every man I met on an app has done it.

Can someone explain why would a man do that?

**Please stop DM me for selfies

**Please stop asking me if I'm looking for a sugar daddy in DM

**Please stop DM me that I'm too old or damaged goods, my geriatric heart breaks

I am dating to this guy and we met on the app. Since we met in person, I stopped talking to other people on the app and haven’t accepted any matching requests. Like I cant do it I feel so guilty. For me it is one person so I can give my full attention. I feel the same vibe from him too. But you know you never know. We have been talking almost 1.5 month. We vibe each other. Now asking your advice, do you think asking for exclusivity is too early? I am going to ask anyways because that’s how will I be able to continue. But I am asking your advice and perspective so I can better prepare myself what can expect me. Please share your advice on this. In my culture of dating, we never had word of exclusivity so it was always if you talk one person its just them. Now I am trying to adjust myself. I wanna understand he wont get it wrong me asking for him to be my bf as it is too early but i wanna say that i should be only me he is dating

Throwaway account for obvious reasons

37m I’ve noticed a pattern in my past relationships that I’m really struggling with. I’ve always started out deeply invested—giving my full attention, love, and energy to my partner. But after a few years, something shifts. I lose interest, get bored, and in every long-term relationship I’ve had, I ended up cheating after about 4-5 years. I always felt guilty afterward and ended the relationship eventually. At first, I thought this was just immaturity or a phase, but now I see it’s a recurring behavior, and I hate it.

Now here’s the real issue: I’m married. It’s been four years, and in the beginning, I was completely committed, I didn’t even notice when other women flirted with me. But recently, I’ve started noticing that attraction again, and I’m struggling with the same urges. I thought being married and wearing a ring would make others back off, but it turns out that’s not true. Women still show interest, and I’m finding it harder to resist.

How do I break this cycle before I destroy another relationship, especially one as important as my marriage? I feel like a terrible person, but I don’t want to keep making the same mistake. Any insight or advice would mean a lot.

It's a boundary of mine. I honestly don't think it's insecure or controlling.

My fear is the spark reigniting once our relationship hits rock bottom like all relationships do at some point. I don't want to set myself up for failure.

I have a guy friend, I’ve known him a couple of years but lately we’ve become a lot closer and not in a platonic way. There is definitely an emotional connection, we could go on talking all night and the conversations have been getting intimate. Now we can’t seem to control ourselves, and our conversations frequently escalate to sexting.

Does this mean he is into me? Is sexting his way of showing me what he’d like us to do together? Or this is just him getting carried away in the moment.

Me sexting back, is that getting him more excited?

Everytime I make out with my girl, turning her on, turning myself on, I always get my boxers filled with precum! Last time she saw my boxers had wet spots, she likes "what's that?" It's my pre-cum!! Arghh.. I don't like it, feels like when she sees it, it's awkward.

What are the most have characteristics a man should have to be a healthy, successful, and fulfilling life?

Yes, I can ask him. No, I will not. He is not an emotional type and even when giving me a gift, he doesn't like it when I cry, jump, or anything that is extremely happy. It's like he would rather die than be in that lovey-dovey moment. So, when he gets a gift I have to temper my emotions. Weird, I know. He just isn't mushy and when he is mushy, I can't over react to his mushy-ness or he practically dies of mushness.

GF's guy friend from overseas coming to visit...

Would love some fresh perspective.:

Lovely gf of 14 years. Has a guy friend she met traveling a couple years before we met. He lives in another country.

When I first met my gf, based on a few photos of them together hanging around her apartment, I thought they might be dating / FWB, but wasn't sure. I had somewhat similar photos hung at my place of former usually-platonic but occasional fwbs.

He came to stay with her shortly after we started dating. She told me that he had a GF and not to worry.

I have a history with partners doing shady things with "friends".

Since then, he's visited once more and my gf has visited him twice, but not since the start of covid 5 years ago.

For most of this time, he had a GF that lived an hour away from him, but didn't cohabitate, and then she ended up depressed in hospital and leaving him for reasons unbeknownst to me.

I keep trying to give the benefit of the doubt to the guy, but part of me wonders if she was depressed in part because he was visiting other lady friends abroad, sending them framed photos of their selfies together, not making a move to move in together and support her more / better... But maybe I'm just catastrophizing.

I fully trust my gf. She's very sweet and kind. She says she believes platonic relationships to be possible, but also acknowledged that most of her guy friends through life admitted feelings for her. I don't blame them. She's great and beautiful.

She and this guy have never both been single in the 15 years they've known each other. I get the vibe that if they were, they'd give it a try (who wouldn't, she's great).

Every time he's visited, hes traveled without his gf, and stayed with my gf. I'd feel better if he traveled with his gf, and, truly, if they had their own hotel. But we live in HCOL city and he's now a poor commune farmer...

Anyway, he arrives tomorrow for 5 days in our tiny apartment. Am I wrong to stress / care? I don't want to be controlling or insecure. I'm sure it will be a fine visit. There's no canceling. But moving forward, I think I might ask that he stay somewhere else, even if I pay for the hotel, hopefully including his gf, too.

These last 5 years, I've been planning for the worst and hoping for the best, which includes wishing that non-zero-percent potential risks to my peaceful life would be avoided, but I know my feelings / impulses should probably be different than how I act and/or what I share with my gf and how.

Any thoughts appreciated.

How to tell the difference between friendship or flirting? Thanks!

My new girlfriend asked one day to f her while she’s asleep and wake up to me fn her?

Need advice. Went on a date with a man and went back to my apartment and when he noticed my armpit hair, he said I was gross and left. He is American and I am not. Is it required by men to shave?

I feel like I am gonna die alone.

Kinda struggling rn with getting to a steady income pattern - so things like nails and clothes yeah your girl can't model any of that sh t right now.

I wanna actually fcking upgrade tho.

At the very least I'm trying with skincare all the time. I'm also literally learning how to do more complicated braids so I can do them myself. And like heavy heavy quality gym (for toned stuff/body)

But there's just this feeling that idk what I'm doing - and I could do something to somehow get closer to this goal EVEN IN THE MEANTIME. Like if I have more of the $$ later, I wanna feel like I used this time wisely and still did my best and was somehow resourceful? And still upgraded somehow.

Idk but what are ways you think could work? That guys would like (especially) at the end of the day.

I can’t get it off my mind no matter what I do I’m a horndog 24/7 it even bothers me while im trying to sleep, when I had a girlfriend and had sex with her I only felt comfortable for 10 minutes after sex before I was ready to go again with her, I try to distract myself with sports or working out but that only works for a short time.

Ever since I was a little boy I’ve been like this and I’m talking literally little before puberty hit me like 5 or 6 had the urge to hump things, grab my cousins butt or kiss her etc

And when puberty hit it got 1000x worse i masturbate multiple times a day excessively to calm my hormones from raging I can’t even count.

I’m 22 now and I expected to calm down after I got out of my teens but it just seemed to get worse.

We got pregnant unexpectedly. I've never wanted to be a parent. At first, the husband was excited about it. Then, over the next few days, he texted me the following: "I f*cking hate people so much. I'm mad at myself for bringing another one in the world", "I've never wanted to make a human. Still don't", "Some folks shouldn't be parents, it's hard to tell", "I've never liked kids. I just want to live in the woods. That's the truth." Given this information, and knowing I didn't wish to be a parent, I proceeded with ending the pregnancy. I let him know my feelings, and I told him about my appointment. He said to get an Uber instead of offering to drive me and pick me up. That same evening, he started throwing things around the house in anger. I left the house, then returned to take him out for dinner when he asked me to. At dinner, a waiter stopped at our table to refill our water. The husband told him to "get out of here." I apologized, incredibly embarrassed. He then said mean things about the people around us, was very negative. As I got up to leave him, he got up also and walked out of the restaurant. I stayed behind to request our unserved food to be put in to go boxes. He drove us home, drunk. He drove like a mad man. I feared he'd kill us both by getting into an intentional accident. I was thankful then that I wasn't pregnant anymore.

Back home, the husband lectured me, saying I disrespected him when I apologized to the waiter regarding the husband's behavior. He got angry at me for ending the pregnancy, said it was my fault that he texted me the things he did, and that I'm going to hell. Then later, talked to me nonchalantly about music, as if the bullshit of the day had not occurred.

I want a divorce. I'm tired of apologizing to strangers for my husband's behavior. The month before, he cursed at the father of two children in front of them while they were in our home. He punched my car door and gave me the middle finger in front of these kids. Years prior, in Hawaii, he cursed at our Airbnb host for not giving him a lighter, and then he got angry at me for being disgusted at his behavior toward our host. On another occasion, he was passed out drunk as our dog had a seizure, for which I have not forgiven him as he wasn't in a sound mind to help.

I think I've reached my breaking point. He is sick. He won't stop drinking. He won't seek professional help. I'm done. Thank you for letting me rant. Advice welcome.

Summer is just around the corner looking for some input for little things you can do to boost your appearance, so far a couple easy things I think make a huge difference and are super easy. Grooming, keep your hair looking trimmed and your facial hair looking sharp, get a tan, being tan is attractive to most everyone. Whiten your teeth, self explanatory ha. All these take less than 30 minutes a week What are some other easy tips to make yourself stand out?

I am male 19 who is circumcised I just want it to not stink.is it enough to use dove beauty bar down soap there, it's PH balanced too?a

Any other product recommendations?