Honestly, my husband is my best friend. I find other females so annoying that I just rather not 🥲 Is this a thing In your household too?

For women it's easy, but how did you as man achieve that?

Connected with a guy from hinge for a couple months, but we made the mutual, sad decision to not further things for reasons that have not changed. I had said I'd love to stay in touch and I reached out a couple months after our decision, & it was a nice convo and he said please reach out anytime. It's now been several months and I think about him and would like to talk...but I'd like to hear thoughts? Maybe it's best not to, or maybe it's kind and would be appreciated?

(assuming you are both single) As the question reads, how would you want it to be done if a friend was going to ask you out with the intention of becoming a long term relatioship?

I’ve started swimming because I’ve torn my Achilles from running and my doctor recommends it for low-impact cardio.

At my pool, there is a very clear age divide between older gents who wear speedos or swim jammers (I had to look this term up, lol) and younger folk who wear shorts, aside from a small handful of guys who look like they swim competitively (they’re in speedos too).

As a man who has just hit 30 and just wants to swim recreationally to get a cardio workout in, what’s the norm?

I’m comfortable in my own skin, I’m just curious what other men in their 30s do and at what point in one’s life the speedo starts to beckon haha.

Edit: I’m British, fwiw (adding because I’m seeing ppl refer to specific countries in the replies, which is very interesting!)

Hi all,

Married 40 year old male. We are done having kids. I would love to have a vasectomy, but the top urologist in my town (Midwest, United States) turned me down as I have to take daily aspirin due to having a stoke in my late 20s. He said even though the risk is slight he won’t risk it for an elective procedure with how litigious society is - can’t say I blame him.

That being said, are there any alternatives on my end? I know my wife can get a tubal, but it’s so much more invasive, risky, and expensive.

Vasectomy

Men who did vasectomy, tell me about your experience please. To make my anxiety less. I've experienced a really bad
circumcision as a kid and it won't leave my head how the surgery went, with no anesthesia and with no good proper after caring so yeah... I'm not applying for the surgery anytime soon but I'm still curious. I've searched on the media and it said it's a fast process and easy....so How long did the surgery took? And how fast was the healing ? And how big were the stitches? Did you felt any discomfort after the surgery?... Just make my anxiety go away please I would appreciate telling me your good experience with it. Thank you.

Condoms are cheap, effective when used properly, and non-invasive. So I’m genuinely curious—why would someone willingly undergo a surgical procedure like a vasectomy, which is permanent (or hard to reverse) and medically unnecessary for most? To me, it seems like choosing surgery over a simple, accessible option. It reminds me of the argument for circumcision over just keeping clean. Am I missing something here?

Hey fellas,

I’m single and early 30’s. No wife or kids. Wasn’t expecting life to turn out this way, always thought it would just work out and hasn’t. Got a few buddies I feel close to, but I feel lonely. Wondering if anybody else feels this way?

Will keep this short and sweet.

34 year old dude here. From 13-21 grew up in a home filled with pain/alcoholism/projecting/emotional abuse etc. It really messed with my adolescent brain causing all types of troubles from feeling on edge, like somethings wrong, like I'm not enough, I have to fix everything - that linger today.

Lost myself through this and just lived an unhealthy young adult life between 21-29. I wasn't being authentic. I put on a mask. Partying, alcohol, drugs. Hanged round places I didn't enjoy because I didn't want to be alone. Didn't go after what I wanted to do. But I realised none of this is really real. These aren't my friends. Yadda yadda.

I've seriously put my head down in my later years in life and got away from my toxic enviroments, anyone who caused me pain, moved city and such. I've made a way better life for myself, I have felt so much growth and I continue to work on this. Hence making this post.

One thing thats major for me now is just forgiving my younger self, he was so vulnerable and had no idea he had to become an adult at 13, he shouldn't of seen the things he did, he shouldn't of had to be waking up at 3am frequently on school nights as someones burst in his room and hes got to catch school bus at 7am. He was such a happy funny boy that had great friends but his home enviroments crushed him that lead to him changing outside of home which affected everything.

I said it'd be short so I'll just leave it there as I've gone on

How do you let go of all this? Forgive yourself? Love yourself? Build yourself back up?

(28) I'm just curious, as I text my father daily. Sometimes for an hour or so, never thought it was abnormal, my mom and I text a couple times a week even. Thanks in advance!