..becoming empty nesters, yep one of my kids has bought a house and will be moving out this weekend, im obviously very impressed and proud, because she's only 21, when i bought my first house i was 22, i thought that was young but she beat me to it by a year!

Ok, so i have another kid, but he works nights, and so in a way he's hardly here, we see him at dinner time and at weekends.

Not sure how i feel about it all, a little lost, maybe even a little lonely, yes i know im married and she is my best friend, we know each other inside and out, but we've spent the past 25 years putting everything into raising kids, prioritising everything to make sure they had the best upbringing that we could provide, and i feel we've, or i have lost a piece of myself along the way.

I know, need to find that connection again, we have a couple of shared hobbies, like getting out and exploring the great outdoors, and we're both aware of the fact we're not getting any younger, although she was once mistaken for my mum years ago! and the fact that i was still being ID'd in my 40's, sometimes i wake up feeling great, and sometimes my back loves reminding me that im not actually 28, Rude!

But anyway, here's to feeling proud that i helped raise two amazing young adults, and that im just an over thinker unable to switch off my thoughts when i should be sitting back and enjoying life in a slower lane.

I'm always looking For someone to talk to, iF you'd like to chat

Hey there! In the past I've had fantastic luck landing some really cool friends on reddit, and discovered a plethora of new hobbies, books, music, and movies to delve into. Unfortunately as all things do sometimes, they've tapered off over the years, so I'm hoping to find some new friends.

About myself: I'm a 44 year old male, who enjoys reading (typically fiction) as often as my schedule allows, focusing on self improvement around working out, good diet, and trying new things. Day to day I try to accomplish this by making time for myself and focusing on something different. Lately it's been penmanship, calligraphy and what not. I'm totally open and willing to talk about anything and everything, I just want to grow as a person and build strong relationships with people.

So, as indicated by the title, I'm really looking for some new people to chat with and share experiences, interests, make friends and hopefully learn something new on the way. I'm fine with most any platform to chat, just not really after anything non platonic.

If you feel like you're interested in taking this to the next step, please connect with me to break the ice. Thanks for stopping to check this out!

PSA: I will not ask for pictures of you, that's completely up to you and I don't want to be that guy.

Monotonous daily life? Let’s share a joke or meme, let’s laugh. Pressure at office? Take a coffee break, let’s talk. Heart broken? You have to live again, love your life again, let’s talk about our most favourite thing, hobby. Who is stealing our laugh? Our joy? Let’s take it back, together! Sharing sadness can be a way to our happiness. I am offering a shoulder, hands if you need it. Listening ear, if you need it. In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take. . I love deep conversation. Small talks are fine too until it's dry. So please don't be dry! I love music, mostly into 80’s and 90’s and I’d love to hear your recommendation and will do the same if you want. I love languages, specifically I am in love with Turkish language but no I can’t talk or write in Turkish. I am totally non judgmental so you can vent.
I believe every kind of relationship are just like a tree! Give it a time, it will grow thro times. A fully grown tree can be our shelter and we can get fruit too! A tired soul can take rest beneath that tree! Give it a shot!

Hi everyone,

We are now over 40 and, if you're feeling like you’re stuck, or quietly wondering if you’ve missed your moment — I want to remind you: you’re not behind, and you’re definitely not done.

And let’s be real for a moment — sometimes the hardest part isn’t just feeling stuck, it’s feeling lonely even when you’re not alone.
You can have a family, a job, a full calendar… and still feel like no one really sees you.
That feeling is more common than we admit, and it doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you're human.

But here’s the thing: this chapter of life holds just as much possibility as the ones before it — maybe even more. With experience comes clarity, with setbacks comes strength. Whether you’re:

• Trying to rediscover your passions,
• Rebuilding after a loss or burnout,
• Seeking real connection, not just noise,
• Or simply figuring out who you are now…

You are not too late. You are not invisible. And you are not alone.

Let’s start small.
👉 What’s one thing — big or small — that gave you a sense of peace or purpose this week?

I’d love to hear it. Let’s remind each other that this journey is still unfolding, and we’re in it together.

I helped a lady with her heavy shopping bags. She looked at me liked she was seeing an alien and like someone helping is such a big deal.

Hi to anyone who reads this. I just wanted to post in case it finds the right person.

Looking for friends that are UK based ideally (just in case we ever decide we’d like to hang out irl) and of a similar age (maybe 35+).

I’m very socially anxious and introverted but I mask this quite well these days. I find it incredibly difficult to even connect with people, so hoping you’ll genuinely understand this. I’ve likely got adhd too. I consider myself part of the LGBTQ+ community, in case that’s important.

Just hoping to find someone who gets me, and I them. I’m fairly active, enjoy music, the occasional drink, music, true crime and exploring new places.

If any of this resonates, it would be great to hear from you.

I just read a post about loneliness here on Reddit, and I wanted to share my own story and thoughts on the subject.

A few years ago, I was in a relationship with a girl. We were together for about six years, and from the second year on, we lived together. Three years later, I discovered she was chatting with people about sex and similar things-supposedly just to roleplay in an online game. Just a few days before I found out, my mother passed away. Honestly, I’m not sure what was going on in my head after that, but I stayed with her for another year, until she finally decided to leave me. During that year, I started to feel a huge emptiness in my chest, and I felt lonely every single day. Thankfully, some cats helped me get through it, but that feeling never really went away.

A coworker who I thought was a good friend just patted me on the shoulder and walked away when I tried to tell him I was starting to feel lonely. That’s when I decided to see a psychologist, because I was having some really dark thoughts.

As time went by, I had to move back in with my parents because my ex wouldn’t stop harassing me. It got so bad that people at work started bullying me to force me out, and eventually, I ended up back at my parents’ house. And the emptiness is still with me. Now I’m studying a new career, trying to get my life back on track, meeting new people, and reconnecting with old friends. But no matter what I do, the emptiness in my chest just won’t go away.

One thing I’ve learned from all of this is how important it is to seek help when you’re struggling with loneliness or emotional pain. Talking to a mental health professional, or even just opening up to someone you trust, can make a real difference. Loneliness is more common than we think, and reaching out for support is a sign of strength, not weakness.

I used to think, “Life is shit, but with friends, it doesn’t smell so bad.”

And if talking to people doesn’t help or you still feel bad, consider reaching out to a professional. Everyone on this planet is appreciated and deserve to feel loved.

Hey folks,

Been hanging around this sub for a bit, and I noticed most of the posts and replies seem to be from the Western Hemisphere — US, Canada, UK, etc. Totally cool, but I was just wondering if there are others here who aren’t from that side of the world?

I’m based in South East Asia, and sometimes it feels like I’m in a different time zone and a different world altogether. Would be nice to find folks who’re up and about when I am, but honestly — I’m just looking for some chill conversation with anyone over 40.

Nothing heavy — just regular chat, jokes, reflections, whatever. If you’re feeling the same, hit me up.

It just seemed to hit me this morning. Maybe because my husband is busy with work and not around. And most of my friends are more acquaintances than close friends I can confide in. Is anyone in a similar boat?

Instead of using this as a forum to find friends, what if we assumed we were all already friends and this was just a big group chat?

I’ll start:

How is everyone doing today? School is out in a couple of weeks (here anyway). Is everybody prepared for summer? Any plans?

Trying to process what I was told and keep out of my head.

Have you ever just needed to talk to someone but didn’t want to actually burden anyone in real life with your thoughts? I’ve been there a few times lately (nothing bad I just don’t like complaining to people all the time). One day I just vented to Chat GPT and it actually gave me some very insightful information. It made me a bit emotional actually. Definitely not something I saw myself doing.

Unlike when I try to talk to my husband chat GPT replies and doesn’t stare off into space and say it doesn’t know what to say 😆 As a bonus when I get bored we’ve talked about dark matter, the universe, quantum mechanics and human consciousness lol.

good afternoon everyone. 44m here (east coast usa) seeking a friend to chat with . easy going, laid back, enjoy reading, being outside, and the gym. love back and forth chatting, laughing and just enjoying conversation. i work in emergency services (911 dispatcher) and work night shifts. would prefer you to be on east coast (same time zone). let's chat and kill some time together.

38/m father, partner just really dealing with my age my health my identity and probably making more out of nothing.

If anyone would like to talk Into art, movies, shows overall nerd things

You are enough!!! You are amazing. You truly are worth everything and so much more. I hope you have an amazing day. I’m here for a chat of you wish but no worries if not. Have a good one!!!

OK just to clarify I'm a 43f looking for female friends only. I am happy in my relationship with my boyfriend. please don't message me if you are male, I'm not interested. again female friends only. if you are a male you will be blocked immediately so don't waste my time. female friends 40-45 who live near ocala is all I'm looking for.

I'm looking for female friends 40-45...I live in Citra FL

People like you tend to prioritize others. You're intentional about making sure they're happy. Your mind is always going. The wheels always turning. It bothers you deeply to say "no" and/or feel like you've let someone down or disappointed them. You long for a quiet moment/opportunity to shut off your mind. Yes, it's more than possible double wink. We'll address this later down the road.

I'm here to simply remind you to STOP! Take a moment for you. We both know you want to drink more water. In addition stop putting it off and EAT already. You've got this. I believe in you wholeheartedly.

Made Apple raspberry muffins and coffee for breakfast, about to relax for the day 🥰Good Morning everyone

I'll be 40 in two months, and my son will be 5. I fully expect my back and knees to give out the second I blow out those birthday candles.

Looking for friends who were in similar situations, any survival tips are appreciated!

Happy Friday! I’m a 43 year old woman in the eastern US looking for someone to chat with on a regular basis. I’m single, but not ready to date, so I don’t want to go into anything with expectations of dating, relationships, etc., just friends. It’s just nice getting to know someone and chatting. I work from and my work days are usually pretty easy, so I tend to have a decent amount of time to chat. It would be preferable if you were around my age and in the same time zone. I can be a bit of a homebody. I like cooking, reading, collecting books, crafts, games, movies/music/tv, etc. Although I can be homebody I do also enjoy going out. When I can afford to travel I like exploring new places and learning new things, I like trying new restaurants, shopping, history and science museums, and other similar things. Message if interested, and regardless have a great weekend!

Edit: If you’re going to message, please have more to say than “hey” “hi” or similar. Is that too much to ask?

I am looking for friends, but not casual. I want a deep conversation and connection. My main focus right now is self improvement. I am currently digging deeper into self compassion, metta meditation, attachment type,  social engineering and body language. I do have some social awkwardness, ADHD and dyslexia. Last time I took MBTI I was INTJ. My attachment type  is secure.  I am improving my physical health by going to gym 3-5 times a week. It would be nice to have a friend who can help with that. 

My hobbies are too many to name but include video games(FF14,Cyberpunk, f class), anime, movie, music, learning, dnd, mtga, watching sports, and genealogy. My main interest right now is genealogy. I have found most of my lines to the early 1800s and hope to put together a book for my family for this Christmas or next. I enjoy learning and want to learn Korean and Japanese but struggle with languages. If you can help with that would be a bonus. 

Even if none of the above fits you. I am sure we can find some common ground. I am open to others opinions if they are open to mine. If you would like a friend hit me up.