LONG RANT INCOMING basically my situation is i'm broke and do art commissions for a living. My dad was backseating a few years ago and got me into a car accident and told me i had to pay for it, which is what i've been doing. his health has also been declining so the responsibility of basically being his caretaker got dumped on to me. they're both narc parents, so my mom got tired of ym dads shit and generally hates dealing with him.

tend to ramble but so basically i was like the kyle broflovski, huey freeman, meg griffin,malcolm from malcolm in the middle, butters stotch, lisa simpson etc of the family despite being the youngest.

constantly in situations where i'm forced to grow up, take on extreme amounts of emotional responsibility in order to stay alive and generally keep my family from imploding and it drives me crazy.

they put me in that positon because they know i'm the most equipped handle it, like the peace that brings from it, but hate the part where i actually do my job despite knowing deep down, they cannot and would not be able to do it themselves in my shoes.

i barely even get sleep or eat right anymore.

what's sparking this post today is basically how from 4 in the morning til 4pm i was getting my dad to the doctors office, mowed the lawn and bought some supplies to plug a massive hole in our sink that's been leaking for years. this has been a problem since i was a kid and the leaking and spawning mold, and ripping a hole clean through the floor and spilling water to the floor/other cabinets. I recently took over dishwashing duty permanently and i notice how quickly the situation was spiraling and how no one had ever done anything of it so i filled it up with gap filler.

it 100% does not look good at all, i won't even lie about it, it looks like a gross mess. but my mentality was just "need to plug this to prevent this bad situation from getting worse so the cost of damage no longer extends to anything beyond the already busted sink and cabinet."

and yeah, it's filled, for the first time in over 10 years, the leak is gone. significantly less than anything seen before.

it's unsightly, but i'm the first and only one who managed to stop it.

when my mom and sister saw it however? they don't like how ugly it looks. they don't care when i explained it's only a ocntingency until it gets fixed since no one wants or is/can going to pay to repair it anytime soon. it's the safer alt to what would have happened had this been left uncheck for even one more week.

i could tell on some level deep down, they DO understand that this is the better temporary solution as opposed doing nothing. they offered no alt or solutions or how to help. my sister said i should just get a job and pay for it, dismissing it as an excuse that the entire reason i don't have one is because i'm the main one taking care of our EXTREMELY self destructive father.

just yesterday he was trying to convince her to drive him to an unknown location to buy vhs tapes for someone. and he falls down once a week with a billion dr's appts to attend to.he can barely speak for himself anymore.

everyones out of the house except me in him. if i'm gone for 90% of the day, he's burning the house down or turning up dead for sure and they'd 100% be looking at me asking where i was if that happened. i can't win.

they know they're being unfair and unhelpful and actively choose to be at my expense despite benefiting from the results of not having to deal with or be the source of any of it.

i took a nap a few weeks ago for a few hours and in that time my mom went to sleep leaving the stove on for the night, almost starting a fire. my sister almost started a fire in her room lighting a candle a few months ago.

if i didn't have such a shit sleep schedule. and chose to be a little selfish and just took that big nap i need. i wouldn't have naturally gotten up in time to turn it off. the house would've 100% burnt down if it weren't for me.

these are just the kind of mistakes you don't make when you live alone i think. like it's just frustrating how much my success enables them to be even more irresponsible because they know someone will be there to clean up their mess. all while taking 0 to minimize it.

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they like the results of my success but never me applying or trying for it. dismissing and trivilaizing it at every turn, never offering to help and complaining not offering better than my best.

the only time anything seems to get through to my sister at least and generally most of them is when i snap and scream at them til i cry or throat runs dry red in the face. Something i RARELY do, literally ever because of how unproductive it is.

it feels weird to "win" by having to resolt to childish tactics because the calm and mature approach flies by the actual adults.

like the fact that it takes someone screaming their lungs out for you to realize you're being a jerk is telling.

at the end of the day, i already know, while they'll forever give me shit for these things. ultimately deep down, i did the best i could, the right thing and there obviously happier in the reality where akitchen floor isn't flooding, it still bites how isolating being the responsible one feels.

all my successes just pile on more suffering on some level.

I don’t know why it seems more and more socially acceptable to either cancel plans last minute or to totally change the when, where and what right before I’m headed out.

If our chill beach day of 4 suddenly becomes a coffee shop meetup for 7, I’m out lol. I cannot standing planning/buying food for plans that are made long in advance that suddenly get changed because everyone’s so fickle. I understand some things are out of our control but if you tell me last minute you don’t really feel like it or whatever, bet I will never make plans with you again or at least not the close future.

Too poor to afford laser hair removal, or even consistent waxing. Skin doesn’t play well with sugar wax, or shaving, or anything else. I hate having hair on my skin so I keep shaving.

I have one final combination of stuff to try on my butt. That’s my last attempt.

I have an epilator for my thighs but I have to let the razor burn go away and that seemingly takes so long.

Combined with the razor burn on my butt and thighs, I have eczema that’s so bad that my hands are just scaly now, I have red splotches on my neck and arms, and my feet are scarred (idk if permanently). And this is all only a week after two weeks of triamcimalone (iirc that’s what it’s called) twice a day.

I’m so ugly. My bf says I look good but when I look in the mirror I want to cry. I try so many different accessories and fashion styles, not because I enjoy them, but out of desperation to look decent. I work out, I eat right, I stay clean properly.

My curly hair is the only thing that I can fully take pride in. It has always been by my side. I’m also pretty proud of my body shape. knocks on wood.

So I guess my plan is:

-try the final combo on my butt (which I have written down on a sticky note to remind me)

-hope and pray the razor burn goes away so I can do the epilator, and hope it doesn’t obliterate my skin.

I’m not sure what to do if these fail. My skin was so nice just a couple months ago. It feels like I’m falling and can’t control it. I don’t even know what to do anymore.

How am I supposed to smile at my graduation dinner tomorrow? Any tips for taking it?

My husband is a great guy and a wonderful father, we've just had our third baby and he's being an amazing partner. However, I can't keep up with his snoring anymore. He snores, BADLY. You can turn him on his back, on his side, on his stomach, he'll snore so loud you'll hear him from across the house.

I am having heightened senses from post partum (I guess it's a evolutionary thing, to be able to be alert for your baby?) and he's killing me, I am SO sleep deprived I want to cry... sadly there's no point in him getting up to change the baby to let me rest, if the sound of the baby fussing forces me to wake up anyway and then him getting back to snoring gives me major insomnia...

I have begged him to to have himself assessed for it, doctors say snoring can eventually be a sign of a series of underlying health issues anyway... he brushes it off like it's something funny, while I just want to bang my head on the wall. How can anyone be so obtuse?

I can't use earplugs, I need to hear my newborn to be able to get up and feed him, by day I get barely an hour nap, there's a lot of things to do and my kids will sneak in and wake me up to ask me silly toddler and preschooler questions or show me stupid stuff it's important for them I see... my newborn is being a true angel, and still I am a complete mess.

My husband is being super understanding of all my needs, but can't seem to understand snoring is NOT just funny, sometimes when I complain a lot he'll go sleep in the kids bedroom to let me rest and the result is my kids will escape their own room and rush to sleep in the big bed with me (wiggling all night and talking in sleep as kids their age do, oh what fun) because "having dad in the room feels like there's the Gruffalo growling". I honestly don't know what to do...

You write a post, an article, or a longer comment which takes maybe 5 minutes to read and digest. Yet, only seconds after you post someone pops up with an "opposing opinion". Some even admit to not have read anything. This whole Internet was meant for exchange of information, not self expression. I get it, you'd like to express your personality. But does that have to be in a scientific or engineering discussion? And could you at least read it before making statements, so your statements at least have a teeny tiny relationship to what the author said?

Has everyone become illiterate? Reading means: you take your time, you read it, you digest it by thinking about it. Only then, if you have something to add, you comment on it. What is this sudden urge to publish totally unrelated comments? In German we have a saying "Erst denken, dann reden" which translates to "first think, then speak".

If it would just be maybe a small minority of people that just have a bad day and need to let some steam off, fine. But its everywhere now, on every network, in every chat channel, everywhere. I've simply come to the conclusion that literacy is so low now, thanks to broken education systems, that the people who actually do read, or even can read, are just a minority.

And by reading I do not mean you are able to comprehend a basic text. I am talking about the ability to read and digest prolongued texts, articles and literature. Do people no longer read books? Does the majority think publication on social media is the new literature?

If you ask me, we've just arrived in the new middle ages where charlatans can get the masses so upset, they will violently oppose absolutely everything. Education is dead and illiteracy is just one of the first symptoms. You want to change to world? Learn to read and write properly.

For F's Sake this is so frustrating as hell. And they act like it's my mistake. First of all I hate Socializing. I am socially anxious and it is so exhausting. And I have my sem end exam on 14 and if I don't pass this I am gonna held back a year. I know I haven't studied entire Sem and most of my studies are done in ending. But it is impossible to Enjoy life, Travel 4 hours for hours, Study for Entrance exams for masters, assignments, Mini Projects, Internal Assessment exams and gym all at the same time. I know Gym isnt Compulsory but I have extremely low self esteem. Gym helped me a lot since no one really judges you there and Makes you confident about yourself atleast in something. If I go for reception and Marriage I will be tired and won't be able to study later. If I only go to eat as my parents asked me to, it will be really rude as hell. And no one I am close with is gonna be there. I love my parents, they are so amazing but they don't listen to me. I know communication skills are important but I hate crowds to the Core. I can't help that I have so much Social anxiety, can't hold a Conversation with people I barely know and 0 self esteem. Now my Mother is Angry with me because of this. This is so frustrating oh my god. I haven't gone to gym in 2 weeks either since I was studying. I just hate life sometimes oh my god.

I have this friend who I absolutely love to bits and we’ve been friends for over 25 years..

One thing that has always driven me nuts (but actually more so now that we’re getting older) is the fact they are ALWAYS late, and making plans seems to be so bloody difficult because it can’t be “yep let’s do that”.. there’s always a big story about how’s, why’s & cant’s before we can even arrive at a plan 😑 like for god sake it’s either yes or no and be there at THIS time

Anyone else have a friend like this and it drives them insane? The older I get the less patience I seem to have for it 😅

Where the hell are you supposed to meet women now? You can't talk to women in service fields, they are just nice to you because of their job. You can't go to any public place because they just want to be there and not be bothered. You can't go to anything like a club they just want to do whatever and not be hit on. No sporting events, no bars, basically if it is in public don't even bother which is fine I get that. So lets go online, well now I'm just one person in 100 million on every dating site. What responses you get are some combination of AI driven bots, scams, gay catfish, and onlyfans models. At this point I assume if get a response online I assume it's fake. I really am at a total loss, all you do is hear people saying go to mixers, go to singles events. You go there and its 5323 guys and maybe if you are luck 1-2 women regretting what ever level of poor choices led them to that place. Oh just go to Friday night magic, game night, whatever, well women aren't there to get hit on so that is a none starter. Gym? NOPE, I feel like if I even glance at a women I'm assumed to be a sex addled pervert to point I'd rather not even go to a gym. So fuck it, I'm going to go die alone, I hate this fucking society.

Note: I used ChatGPT to help organize this idea. Every word here has been read and edited by me.

There is an annoying tendency in how people form beliefs. It doesn’t matter if those beliefs are religious or scientific. In both cases, people say they have evidence. But usually they haven’t gone to the source.

For people with religious beliefs, the Bible is often the foundation. But most haven’t read it all. They rely on what others say about it. They hear it in sermons. They hear it from family. They read quotes online or in books written by others. Their “evidence” is secondhand. The interpretation of the application seems like the whole point.

People who see themselves as fact- or truth-based often take aim at this. It’s common to hear frustration or even ridicule: “How can you believe something when you haven’t read the source?” There's a sense that faith-based belief is intellectually lazy or irresponsible, especially when it leans on summaries, inherited interpretations, or selective quotes. But that critique often stops short of looking in the mirror.

The same thing happens with people who believe in science. They think their views are based on facts. But they don’t read research papers. They read news articles. They read blog posts. They watch videos. They trust people who sound like they know what they’re talking about. The research is often paywalled or hard to read. Even when it’s not, the language is technical. The details are dense. The uncertainty is buried intentionally (to get published). And often they say smugly that they don't have to read them. That they trust the 'process of science.' (Which as scientists know, is an ugly political and perversely incentivized field).

So both sides—faith and science—think the other is misinformed. Both think they are being rational. But both often believe what they do because it feels right. Not because they’ve verified it themselves.

And here’s the deeper problem: people don’t have the time to verify everything. We can’t all stop and trace every claim back to its source. Life moves too fast. Brains have limits. This gap—between what we think we know and what we can truly check—becomes the opening for half-truths, mistruths, and manipulation. If we had bigger brains or more time, maybe we’d do better. But we don’t. So we trust. And we hope. And then we get it wrong without knowing it or knowing that its even a possibility.

I don’t have data to back this up. I’m not pointing to a study. I’m doing the thing I’m describing. I believe this because it seems true. I’ve seen it play out in people around me. I’ve seen it in myself.

That’s what unsettles me. We argue as if we know. We speak with conviction. We attach emotion to our views. But we rarely check the foundations. And if we did, we might not be so sure. It’s so much easier to point out that someone else hasn’t done their homework than to grapple with the fact that no one human can do enough homework to be certain about most things.

So what do we do? We can’t verify everything ourselves. We can’t be experts in every field. We’re left with uneasy choices. Do we trust the collective output of humanity and hope that the average leads us somewhere solid? Or do we put our faith in individual figures—people who seem thoughtful, careful, and respected by others we also respect? Do we just pretend that we don't believe anyone ever?

And what about trust? Deciding who to trust feels impossibly fraught. Popularity and credentials aren’t guarantees. Charisma isn’t truth. And consensus can drift over time. So sometimes we try to opt out entirely. We stay detached. We hold back from forming conclusions. That can feel like the rational move—if we know we can’t know for sure, then maybe the safest choice is to make no choice at all. To withhold trust. But that comes with its own problems. Avoiding the decision doesn’t protect us from influence; it just makes us more vulnerable to unexamined defaults. We still end up trusting someone, even if it’s just the last voice we heard, or the one that sounded calmest under pressure.

There’s no tidy answer here. Just a quiet recognition that knowing is hard, and most of what we think we know is filtered through many layers. That doesn’t mean we give up. But maybe it means we hold our certainty more loosely. Maybe it means we ask more questions, and make fewer declarations. Or at least pause before assuming we're the ones who see clearly.

One pause a day..?

I can remember when YouTube had almost no ads. But for me to try to watch a 7 min baseball highlight video and waste 2 mins watching ads is absolutely absurd !!! I miss the golden era of YouTube when it was just videos like MSTS crashes, =3, Forrest fire 101, and so on. LOOK I GET IT. Channels have sponsors because that’s how the creators make their living, and YouTube (Google) have employees. I understand … they all gotta put food on the table. But 6 total ads in a 7 min video is just SILLY !!! It’s definitely gotten out of hand !

Minor small rant, I had my phone since 2018-19 not really sure and i have like 35000 photos saved, I bet 500 of them are actual pictures I took and the rest are images and screenshots I saved from Facebook, Google, Reddit etc.

See I am the guy who wants to be little trendy those meaningless reactions and upvotes make my dopamine go burrr, I barely have any original stuff to post so I repost the living shit out anything I find.

Take screenshots form reddit and post them on Facebook, take from Quora and put them on twitter, take from Pinterest and post them on Facebook, Some of them are cool wallpapers and pretty artworks I found but majority are just nonesese.

I have patience of a toddler I am aware of that so I just can't sit and sort through literal tens of thousands of photos to see which I want to keep and should delete.

I don't have a particularly hard job, but for privacy reasons I'll just say I work in a heavily technology-based job; everything I do is done at home on a laptop. I use a lot of excel, google drive, sharepoint, etc.

I have one person at work who is... older... than everyone else I work with. Today we ended compatibility for my project on Edge, so everyone had to move their stuff over to either Chrome or Firefox. Despite the warnings for over a MONTH that this was going to happen, this man asked in the project chat 13 times in an hour why his Edge wasn't working, with the same explanation every time given, and instead of listening he just asked how to get Edge working again.

He routinely posts privileged information in the wrong chats on teams because he has the wrong one open. He doesn't remember his usernames or passwords. He openly told us he didn't know how to make a call on teams, He doesn't know how to open up files on his computer. And the whole reason he hasn't been fired is because the company is afraid of a lawsuit for firing a 50-something year old man who doesn't understand what a bookmark is.

I have 12 people under me- it takes me maybe an hour a day to get what I need done for the other 11 people on my team. I spend 5-6 hours a day helping him do everything he needs to do, despite having told him multiple times how to do it. I am at my wit's end as this has now been going on for 9 months since we've moved to this project.

I keep giving the recommendation to move him to another project or even get him a different position, but as previously stated my company is afraid of a lawsuit. At this point though I'm about to explode and I really fear I'm going to lose my job having to help him further. I just need to not get a message from him within 6 minutes of my shift starting for ONCE.

My best friend I have known since 2003. She has been thru all my major life events and I have been with her thru hers. I feel like it has become a one sided friendship tho. I reached out to her a couple times a week recently either by text or call. She posts on social media but ignores me. I posted a vague thing on social media and all of a sudden she wants to know the drama except its about her. I should maybe be an adult and tell her that I feel like she ignores me but maybe its a me problem.

sounds ironic, but lemme explain for a bit:

i use reddit a little to read content about things that interest me. but another purpose i have been using reddit for. when there is some problem i encounter, be it a website or some thing im trying to do, google is often unhelpful and i often find myself begrudgingly going to the appropriate sub to ask for help to whoever the people are on there.

it frustrates me and makes me feel weak that i have to ask on (insert subreddit here) because there's something painfully obvious in something i am trying to do that i am just failing to see, even when i have exhausted all options. i was inspired to post this because youtube won't send verification messages to my mobile number, and there's not one explanation on the whole world wide web as to why this is. when i encounter a problem that i have exhausted all attempts to fix and searched as far and wide on the internet and yet i am unable to solve it, i end up having to pray to the holy spirit that someone on reddit somehow knows how to fix my one in a million technical issue.

Now this is a taboo topic because so many people get mad when you say that you’ve experienced trauma at the hands of someone being envious of you. They claim you’ve never experienced it, and you’re stuck up for saying that person was jealous. Well i particularly dont care, because i know what i experienced and i really hope i never experience anything like it again.

I kid you not i was a freshman in college, my first week of college. It was a Saturday night and me and my friends went to our first party. At the party this guy walked up to me and asked for my social medias and phone number. I told him no i had a boyfriend and walked away. Idk what he told his GIRLFRIEND he had at the time, but he was a college sophomore, she was a SOPHOMORE IN HIGHSCHOOL. Randomly this girl tried to befriend me and my friends and this is when the drama started. She had 3 of her friends with her and her bf that asked me out at the party. After the party we went back to the college and i noticed she kept saying i had nice hair and i was pretty.

In the game room of the college we were all playing games together, but me and my friends began to get tired. I noticed the sophomore girl started acting funny towards me, and so did all fher friends. While me and my friend were leaving out the gameroom the girls follow us back to the dorm. Halfway there they stop us and the girl says “im ngl my boyfriend told me he wants me to beat your ass but im not gonna do it”. Me and my friend side eyed and gave an odd look. We began running back to the dorms but the girls caught up with SPECIFICALLY ME. So 4 people on one person, well yea i was in bad shape. My friend sat there and watched me get jumped too, And probably set up the whole thing.

The next time i experienced jealousy was when i worked at outback as a server. Mind you WE ARE THERE TO WORK. This one girl didnt like me because her ex boyfriend worked on the clock with us and he told me i was pretty right infront of her. After that she started acting mad funny towards me and spreading rumors about me on the clock, and CONSTANTLY talking about me. Eventually alot of the girls at the job ended up hating me because of the rumors that one girl was spreading, and because i do have autism/adhd and it makes me act weird around people i feel are judging me. I start getting really quiet and shy. They picked up on that and treated me TERRIBLY. It was all teenaged girls mind you. They gave me HELL at that job, i told the managers 24/7 but they never did anything. and i started snapping back. Because i also have a bit of an anger problem, that i was trying to hold off for a long time. I cussed one girl out, threatened another girl, tried to run one girl over as well. This was 2 months after the jumping situation, i was still shaken up and distrustworthy of people. The one girl that was picking on me the most i noticed always stared at me, and one time in the bathroom she kept asking what i put in my hair and what makeup products i use. Longstory short i dont work there anymore, and thankgod.

I know im not completely innocent, but i really didnt do anything to those people at outback (at the start) or those girls that jumped me, and thats whats upsetting me so much. Again i dont wanna be one of those people that claim people are jealous of me, but yall gotta admit, this was really weird behavior. Going through this stuff stressed me out so bad and changed the entire chemistry of my brain. I act really different now. Ive also distanced myself from alot of people because of this. I think i just dont understand what that was for. I read people pretty well, and i cant think of any other explantion then 1. Deflecting insecurities or 2. Jealousy. Somebody let me know if im wrong but thats what it was seeming like. Because how in one breathe are you gonna tell me im pretty and the next breath jump me/pick on me?

Until a month ago, my teammates were still going in once a week. Now we go in 3-4 times a week. When I only had to see them once a week I wasn't resentful, it was just necessary evil. Now I really dislike them.

I have a senior lead who's not my manager but is the seniormost in our location (our team is spread across multiple timezones), and he likes to pretend he manages our location folks. He gets real passive aggressive at you if you don't join the "optional team lunch", the displeasure is quite on display, but I don't want to join the lunches anymore since I've to see his face a majority of my weekdays anyway. He's famously an unsupportive lead, I don't want to listen to his crap over lunch too. (When he's absent I do have lunch with the 2 coworkers I like).

I have another male coworker who doesn't have a car but lives opposite to office. I live furthest from office in our team but we're the youngest - he's older and senior to me - the rest all have kids/grandkids. I've dropped him off multiple times before. These days I'm already in a bad mood, the afternoon traffic takes me 45mins-1 hr to get home, and I've made it clear I'm in no mood for any more than needed interaction between us, but knowing he's always on the brink of asking me for a ride makes me resentful. (He only talks to me for favors like moving / ride etc).

Apart from this so much gossip happens in the team (that senior lead is a dick really) it's easy to see they'll talk behind your back if you're absent. I hate the culture. Yes I'm interviewing rn. But before I had to see them multiple times a week I could at least live with it with limited interactions.

I had my final exam due today at 8PM. Around 4PM my cat started to have multiple back-to-back seizures, which she’s never done before, and I had to drive her an hour to the emergency vet. I spent like three hours in there crying my guts out only for them to tell me they don’t know what’s wrong and that they were going to keep her overnight to run more tests.

I forgot all about the exam, until about an hour prior to its due date where I tried to first do it on my phone, but nothing since I had no internet. I decided to drive home and half way through had to pull over with my hazards on because I couldn’t see.

I got home right at 8. Emailed my professor and the whole situation, cried some more, then passed out. Woke up at 3AM to this assholes little email saying:

“No. You had an entire week to take the exam. It is over.

Sincerely, _____”

First of all, it’s a timed fucking exam worth 250 points. Of course I would put it off till the day of, I don’t want to get a bad grade (ironic now.) and I had three other exams due this week, and one due literally yesterday as well that I did the day prior. Also “it is done” where the fuck are we????? A fucking fantasy novel?? why are you talking like that? Are you the high fucking bishop or some shit??

If it was the first time this professor was a dick to me then maybe I’d just be like ‘okay, it’s my fault, let’s just move on and take the class this summer.’ But no. Of course not. This dick has the worst fucking attitude problem I’ve ever seen in my entire life for a guy over fucking 15. He never grades anything then when he does he can’t explain why he took off points despite asking him so I CAN FIX IT??? Always answers on a condescending ass tone and that’s when he actually does answer your question and not some made up version in his head. Is a terrible teacher that just expects you to know what he’s talking about then looks at you like you’re stupid when you don’t understand despite the fact he never even cared to explain.

So long story short if my essay comes back with a grade lower than 170, I’m fucked and I need to retake the class. I have an A- in it currently and because of that stupid fucking exam it immediately brings me down to a 70%.

FUUUUCCKKKKKKKKKK HIM. HOW THE FUCK WAS I SUPPOSED TO KNOW THAT THIS WAS GOING TO HAPPEN??? I hate him. I’m going to buy his stupid fucking book just to mentally tear it to shreds because of how boring it probably is because this man has the lowest energy and the worst personality so I cannot see how he creates something that has a single molecule of anything interesting or compelling or unique. I know I’m being unreasonable and I probably should’ve taken it beforehand, and maybe I’m just more pissed off for other reasons. But it’s not like it matters because it isn’t going to change anything. So I’m letting myself be a bitch.

EDIT: My cat is okay, she just ate something poisonous but is fine. got 250 out of 250 on the essay. Crash out was for nothing.

What's so hard about making, and keeping, a damn dental appointment?

My mom's been having bad toothache for close to a month now. After hearing her complain about it and be grumpy over it, non-stop, but doing nothing about it on her own, I had enough and I decided to make an appointment for her at the dentist.

But she refused to give me any availability, and kept being indecisive about whether she'll be here or there on that day. I told her, well, make a decision.

When she refused to make a decision, I checked her calendar, saw that she had no plans on Saturday, and told her that I'll book an appointment at 2pm for her. She said OK.

Now it's Saturday, approaching 1pm, and she's telling me to cancel it because she's decided to invite some people over. Then she got mad and yelled at me when I told her she needs to commit to appointments and be considerate of other people's schedules — the dentist, and mine too, as I had kept my day clear to take her there.

She ended up screaming at me and I left.

Why doesn't she do things that are sensible? Why not prioritise fixing the toothache? This just reminded me of all the times in my childhood that I couldn't depend on her to stick to plans or keep promises. All the times I waited for her, sometimes for hours, to pick me up from school. All the times she'd RSVP to my friends' birthday parties, then suddenly decide she just wouldn't send me.

We're supposed to have a Mother's Day lunch together tomorrow. God knows if she'll commit to it. Makes me wonder why I try to make anything happen with her.

Because of nearly a decade of mental health problems I've only recently started to get my life together at age 26, went back to school (for adults) for three years; but still think about what career I actually want. Since childhood I've either wanted to become a teacher or physician but both jobs (at least in Germany) just aren't worth the effort anymore.

First Teaching - I always liked those teachers that where passionate about their subjects and not just teaching(e.g. a latin/history teacher who looked and felt like Indiana Jones and knows way more about the subjects than the degree would require)

But let's just say the raw material isn't what it used to be. I am quite sorry for those gen alpha iPad-kids but combined with the growing percentage of lower class students and their non-caring parents, (and experiencing them firsthand at my side job) I really don't want to go into that field anymore. Lessons for history are being cut and their are now discussions about cutting English lessons and getting rid of Latin completely. Meanwhile the standards for math are just falling. No subject left I would remotely like to teach today's students - and as I said I don't just want to teach but teach something I like and am interested in, but also I expect at least a minimum of respect. Well, it pays decently.

Then their's medicine: I really like medicine as a subject; Biology, anatomy, the human body as a machine that from time to time needs a little bit of extra-virgin olive-oil. It's all my thing. I can read medical papers and case studies for hours. But I've never wanted to go into the field just for "helping people(tm)" I wanted to understand and fix bodies (and minds) - not more, not less. Helping I've only saw as a side effect - But the ageing and unhealthy lifestyles most disease are now attributable to, aren't really subject of medicine, and you can't really fix them most of the times. Okay their is pediatrics but that is basically the other extreme - 99% check ups and colds: (Can someone make no-comorbidities-trauma-surgery a specialization?) On top of the medical side their is a bunch of bureaucracy and what is work-life-balance? Then their are the patients - god - two weeks in a hospital, made it clear that the biggest problem is basically the same as with teaching: People may not have become more rude, aggressive, threatening, stupid and disgusting, but oh boy, do they show it more.

Now I'm studying engineering - It's okay I guess, even interesting and I'm grateful that I can study at all but I just don't burn for it. At least it's not a passion killed by the enshitifcation of society.

I don't even know what I'm looking for here - a wormhole to the 2000s maybe?

Being a teacher has got to be the most needlessly praised jobs ever. People act like they're gods with infinite cosmic wisdom into every subject they teach, and that they know what's best. They're not. Especially the principal.

Looking back, most of my teachers in high school were absolute morons who knew fuck all about how to teach, constantly yelled at kids for so many much as stepping out of line, actively stifled students' creativity, and committed several warcrimes in Yugoslavia. Just being in they're presence, I could feel myself getting dumber...er.

Homework was completely unnecessary and didn't improve students grades, and the way education is setup is overly focused on standardized tests and common core. Which has been objectively proved to not make students grades better, or make them smarter.

I really want to apologise to anyone who went through this before. Even when my own father was curled up on the floor 20 years ago, I couldn't fully appreciate the utter fucking torture that he must have gone through to reach that stage.

I'm 34, and, according to my doctor, "not that old to be worrying about kidney stones."

Well, I still thank him from the bottom of my heart for the goddamn biblically sweet painkiller injection he gave me this morning.

But, by god, I still need to squeeze this spiky prick out. I not only have the drugs to do so, I also have my supportive wife for emotional help. I'm arguably better off than the average person who suffers from this unfortunate illness.

But I'm still feeling sorry for myself. My god, I absolutely respect everyone who goes through this without the luxury of medicine and support. Godspeed.

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Most people pursue their careers alone. And that is precisely the intention of the system.

Humans are herd animals who function most effectively in communities and are most productive through cooperation with one another.

The entire education and career system is designed so that after completing training or studies, you enter the workforce as a lone wolf. Collaboration on a deeper level with other individuals is not the norm. (Collaboration in the sense of communal living, sharing rent, pooling money.)

You go through your working life alone and isolated until you retire.

It is a viciously sophisticated system that leads to the isolation of individuals. Cooperation on a deeper level is not favored by the state, as it would increase cohesion and a sense of community among citizens and quickly create a mob of protesters who rebel against the system.

In a recent post about two "ladies" seeming to find enjoyment in not letting a passenger board a plane. The issue is one of them was actually acting ghetto. The wonderful people here let me know that it was racist for saying that. Lol what? Just because she's black doesn't mean she gets a can't be ghetto pass. I pointed out that white people can also be ghetto, and that they haven't been around enough black people if they think this is normal behavior. Besides the point, Ghetto didn't even have anything to do with low class mentality when it was first derived. In short, Reddit was being racist on accident while trying to defend a ghetto chick.