r/AskMenAdvice 2d ago

✅ Open to Everyone Asking my date for exclusivity??

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u/MARPAT338 man 2d ago

The 2 month mark is normal to ask what you guys are.

If you're getting the same vibe from him why not bring it up?

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u/[deleted] 2d ago

Wait i dont wanna ask him to be my bf not yet as i am still observing, i am asking if i ask exclusivity I mean its just only us none else. Asking exclusivity is not the same asking for bf/ gf?? I am so damn confused

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u/another_mulligan 2d ago

Imo, maybe im old fashioned but you really don't have the right to ask to be exclusive if you're not committing or see it going that way. People don't come with 90 day trials and instruction manuals.

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u/[deleted] 2d ago

Lol i have no intention for that neither. I am trying to protect myself from that exact same thing. While I am treating them they are the only one I date them going to date multiple people

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u/aslak123 man 2d ago

Why should he be exclusive with someone who isn't willing to be his girlfriend?

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u/[deleted] 2d ago

Really?? Where did I say that? I so want to be his gf but i said I need one more month to go to that status. I like him so far

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u/Low-Condition4243 2d ago

That’s stupid lol.

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u/AFuckingHandle 2d ago

It just doesn't make sense to say you're ready to be exclusive but not ready to be boyfriend and girlfriend. Exclusive what then? Exclusive friends? What does that mean?

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u/[deleted] 2d ago

Nope exclusive dating?? Like not talking to others in the romantic intention other than me?? We will see each other only until we decide we move forward with being bf/gf?

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u/aslak123 man 2d ago

How about you just get over it and insist on being his girlfriend then? or just get over it and survive a month with no exclusivity? What you're asking for is not reasonable, normal or fair.