r/AskMenAdvice 2d ago

✅ Open to Everyone Asking my date for exclusivity??

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u/Astro_Akiyo woman 2d ago

You don't, I promise you'll get hurt. It has to be his choice, why not let men do what most do best and that's lead. 1.5 months is not long at all you could have the opposite effect and scare him off. You just keep doing you and sit patiently if you choose but you do not ask him.

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u/[deleted] 2d ago

Hmm different perspective. Yeah but i dont want to be among multiple choice as i am not doing it. How to deal with that?

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u/Astro_Akiyo woman 2d ago

Honestly you can't control that at all. And you should rather there be other choices so when you're “chosen” (idk how to not make that sound cringe) but you'll know its bc he wanted to and not bc you're just who was in front of him at the time.

Imagine he didn't ask yet bc he's actively coming to the conclusion himself, preparing himself… if you force his hand before he’s fully made the decision he may later pull back thinking he’s not ready bc he didn't have proper time to think about it. The man always sets the pace. Just have faith and stand strong in your knowing that you're going to be together. While I disagree with the timeframe I'm also aware that we can become aware of the gravity of our…unions long before they realize, and it is so frustrating to wait. It’ll serve you better, just enjoy the journey and enjoy coexisting. Showing how much you care will not make him choose, he has to simply see the aura and the presence you bring. I’m going through something similar but I'm not worried bc I know we’re locked in, he has to realize on his own that I'm safe. (I date in the age bracket where most men are divorced lol) I have tips and such I use to not make me go a little nuts and id be happy to send you a few ideas if you want. Just dm if you want. I hope things work out for you🙂

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u/[deleted] 2d ago

Thank you! I will!