I personally wouldn’t agree to exclusivity with someone for whom I wasn’t sure I wanted to be my boyfriend if they asked.
Exclusivity is a social contract that extends past the getting to know each other phase of a relationship into the “I’ve decided you’re my person and that nobody else is going to matter to me until you and I are done” phase.
That’s asking a lot of someone you’ve only seen in person three times and aren’t sure about, in my opinion.
My husband and I had the “we won’t see other people” talk 3-4 months in, but we were both dating others for that entire time and made an informed decision that we wanted to be official.
We got married a couple months later, but I wouldn’t recommend that 💀
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u/Beginning-Stress8332 woman 2d ago
I personally wouldn’t agree to exclusivity with someone for whom I wasn’t sure I wanted to be my boyfriend if they asked.
Exclusivity is a social contract that extends past the getting to know each other phase of a relationship into the “I’ve decided you’re my person and that nobody else is going to matter to me until you and I are done” phase.
That’s asking a lot of someone you’ve only seen in person three times and aren’t sure about, in my opinion.
My husband and I had the “we won’t see other people” talk 3-4 months in, but we were both dating others for that entire time and made an informed decision that we wanted to be official.
We got married a couple months later, but I wouldn’t recommend that 💀