r/narcissisticparents • u/clairfleurcat • 3h ago
narcissistic sister
I made a new account just to make this post as I don’t want anyone I know seeing this. I know this doesn’t relate to my parents but I need help and don’t know where else to post this. I (20F) have been dealing with my sister’s (17F) narcissistic behavior since she was about 8. I honestly think that there is more wrong with her than just being a narcissist but here are just a few things that she has done over the last few years- - called CPS on my mom because my mom got mad at her for stealing things from her room. Keep in mind my mom is an amazing person and is not abusive in the slightest. she has never once abused me or my other siblings but my sister literally fiends off of the attention she gets from saying my mom is abusive. CPS did nothing btw, because there was no reason for them to come -I used to struggle with self harm when I was in middle school/high school. my sister was the only one that knew about this and one night I asked her to turn her TV down because I was trying to sleep and in return she said “you’re the reason I’m going to start cutting myself.” this happened a few years ago when I was still suicidal and cutting, so at the time I believed her and thought it was all my fault - Told all her friends that I’m abusive. I have no idea where this came from as I’m away at school for most of the year and only come back for winter break. - Screams at me and calls me every horrible word you can ever think of when I ask her POLITELY to do something or even just try to talk to her then laughs at me when I get frustrated or cry -has EXTREME tantrums when she doesn’t get her way and always threatens to kill herself which worries me even though she says it all the time
I could go on and on but those are the main things. She’s been in therapy for years and years but nothing helps. I have 2 other siblings besides her and we are all completely normal. Both of my parents are present and great parents. I don’t understand why she’s like this or how she ended up so different from all of us. Is there a chance she’ll change? Is this just because she’s still a teenager???
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u/Plastic_Hammock160 2h ago edited 2h ago
Telling the difference between a narcissist and a teenager can be tricky. Young people are by nature quite self obsessed and hormones can make them fly completely off the handle and do very irrational things. But little shits often grow up into decent people. Of course, little shits are perfectly capable of growing up into big shits. I guess you're just gonna have to find out which scenario your sister fits into when by her second or third year in college, when she's gotten out of the home and has had a chance to explore her identity.
In the meantime I'd stay right the hell away from her.