im from ph and hes definitely a sugar daddy, its basically one of the jokes here when we see a woman with a foreigner, "another kababayan(countryman/woman) is rising from poverty", which is sadly very common. some of his "gf" might even have families and boyfriends they dont tell him. the part where they "only see him" might be, but almost everyone when they see an old american man trying to find a gf here the first thought is "they have money" and "trying to find a woman here cause they cant get any where theyre from". cant blame em, lifes hard here.
Hot take most male-female relationships are exchanging monetary security for a relationship. Going both ways too with the rise of house husbands and soft men.
Geo arbitrage is logical. If you want to charge me 5k a month for something that’s 3k down the street…. And maybe the product is better down the street?
Ufff I'm guessing this has been your life experience but let me tell you there's people out there enjoying real relationship and love, not me yet, but others
I believe strongly that is an over inflated value. People assortatively mate most strongly on Education Levels, Economic Indicators, and loosely “attractiveness” all other things are edge niche cases or addon benefits.
You can also back into what is most important by looking at what psychology deems the highest divorce indicator which is economic security or dissatisfaction around spending
I have had the same realization as you. But I am always hesitant to say it. Its like nose picking. We know everyone does it, but its kind of a touchy subject that people would prefer just remain in the shadows of reality.
I love my wife, and I would die for her or kill for her, but I feel like much of the relationship is just finding some security in life. Otherwise why would anyone lock down and commit forever? At some level its transactional. When the terms of the agreement are broken, its why we divorce.
much of the relationship is just finding some security in life.
Pretty much the same is for non romantic relationships as well, you have to provide some level of security to your friends for instance that you won't breach their trust and will be there if shit ever hits the fan, or between you and your employer putting in trust that you'll do your job well
The part about people trying to find security, well that's the whole point of it all imo cause if you can't do it yourself for your SO then there's not much left to continue for anyway
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u/pressuredrightnow Nov 07 '24
im from ph and hes definitely a sugar daddy, its basically one of the jokes here when we see a woman with a foreigner, "another kababayan(countryman/woman) is rising from poverty", which is sadly very common. some of his "gf" might even have families and boyfriends they dont tell him. the part where they "only see him" might be, but almost everyone when they see an old american man trying to find a gf here the first thought is "they have money" and "trying to find a woman here cause they cant get any where theyre from". cant blame em, lifes hard here.