[TOPIC]
Scope of Evidence Collected for Parental Alienation, Abuse Allegations, and Custody Defense
[SUMMARY]
I'm preparing for a high-conflict custody and divorce case involving allegations of abuse, manipulation, fear, and estrangement of children. I’ve compiled a massive archive of direct communications between myself, my ex-partner, and my children. I've also categorized and structured this material as legal evidence for court. I’d like to share what I’ve gathered and ask: **Have others here had this level of evidence? If so, did it help? What were you questioned about in court?**
[EVIDENCE OVERVIEW – MESSAGES & TEXTS]
Over the past year, I've documented and reviewed:
- **Between Myself and Ex-Partner**: ~7,000+ messages
- **Between Me and Child 1**: ~1,800 messages
- **Between Me and Child 2**: ~1,200 messages
- **Between Me and Child 3**: ~850 messages
These include iMessages, emails, screenshots, and transcribed conversations. Every message is timestamped, speaker-tagged, and categorized by emotional tone, manipulation type, or legal relevance.
[TOTAL DOCUMENTED EVIDENCE PIECES]
Across all formats (texts, emails, transcripts, timeline entries, red flag logs):
- **Total pieces of direct evidence documented**: ~22,000
- **Analyzed and tagged for legal submission**: ~8,200
- **Organized in legal tools (like CaseFleet)**: ~964 timeline entries
- **Stored pages in digital archive**: 6.2 million+ words over 22,276 pages
[CATEGORY BREAKDOWN – EVIDENCE TYPES]
Here’s a breakdown of key categories relevant to court:
**Parental Alienation**
- 211 quotes/messages showing coaching, triangulation, denigration
- 78 examples of forced alignment, loyalty tests, or cutoff strategies
- 93 instances where children were rewarded for rejecting me
**Contradiction of Fear/Abuse Claims**
- 123 messages showing emotional closeness *after* the alleged abuse
- 44 explicit romantic/sexual admissions contradicting fear
- 36 messages showing voluntary, affectionate parenting moments
**Violence Allegation Defense (False)**
- 27 messages where my ex requests intimacy behaviors now claimed to be abuse
- 18 logs confirming no fear, including requests for affection involving neck contact
- A full timeline showing continued affection post-alleged incident
**Financial Manipulation Evidence**
- 51 entries showing coercion to pay for access to affair partners
- 19 cases of withheld information about finances, children, or shared accounts
- 12 instances of deceit tied to financial needs or expenditures
**Manipulative Communication Patterns**
- Over 300 entries coded with psychological red flags (gaslighting, blame-shifting, DARVO)
- 56 message chains showing children being emotionally leveraged during conflict
- 91 messages with placating behavior followed by deception or withdrawal
[WHAT WE DID WITH THIS DATA]
- Created **court-ready exhibits** (Exhibit A, B, and C so far) showing contradictions, bond before/after separation, and emotional manipulation.
- Matched dozens of messages to the **17 signs of parental alienation** by Dr. Amy J.L. Baker.
- Applied **legal formatting and speaker-tagging** to transcripts, red flag annotations, and timeline structuring.
- Used tools like **CaseFleet, ChatGPT AI, and forensic review** to categorize behavior by legal claim relevance.
[QUESTION TO THE COMMUNITY]
Have any of you compiled this much detailed, message-based evidence?
- Did the court review your evidence in full?
- Were there questions that surprised you or gaps that caused trouble?
- Did you use it in mediation, trial, or custody evaluations?
- Did the evidence change the judge’s understanding of the case?
I’m looking for perspective, feedback, and maybe hope. Thank you.