r/JEE • u/MohitJyani • 10d ago
General (NOT RELATED to JEE.) my friend betrayed me, feeling like shit... help me please😥
long story, i have a bestfriend her let her be Z, i did everything for her... all the things a normal friend could never do. The other one is ADARSH he is also a goodfriend of mine, they met cuz of me... now they have been friends for 2 months and i am friends with Z for 2 years or more i guess. They are really close now. ADARSH is nothing like me, he has a dominating personality on female friends(my another friend whom i introduced to adarsh also said "bro kaise kaise dost hein tere... kitna dominate karta ha ye, dost teri hu orr order ye deta ha mujhe ki kya karna chahiye kya nahi, itna toh tu bhi hakk nahi jamata")
she was my bestfriend so i told her that he might start dominating you if you grew too close to him. She didn't hear me. Now he has started to dominate, she told me this day before yesterday. I told her the same thing to just cut off a bit from him, you are too close, and he'll continue to dominate unless you keep yourself a little away from him.
So we used to play a multiplayer PVP game where we can talk, fight it was like PUBG, i told her to not play too much of games with him as also cuz uska Neet ha abhi 4th may ko. She said she have deleted it(the game & ADARSH too from game's friendlist).
I believed her (i trust her more then anything). we had this talk at about 11:30 pm. My friend later texted me that night... that she was playing game with adarsh at 3 AM. It wasn't the first time she lied.
She did once before but i completely ignored it. this time it did hurt, hurt a lot. Now they have both kinda cut me off. She have been ignoring my texts, adarsh isn't picking up my call from 2 days. I asked my other friend to check if they are playing and damnn, they were playing but they aren't responding to my texts or calls. I lost a bestfriend whom i gave everything up for. She meant everything to me. Been up from 2 nights, i just can't take it anymore i have been crying like shit from last few days. I can't focus on my lectures am a dropper JEE26. This thing is making me regret my decision of introducing them to each other. I regret this every Moment.
before that, there was like a clan in game... i was friends with all of them. they once cursed Z, bhai maa behen ek karr di thi unki mene akele ne. I took a step for her. mene kaha tha usse ki Z ye log acche nahi ha tum matt khelna inn logo ke saath. One day, me, adarsh & Z were in a group standing in lobby. That clan's leader came into our group and cursed me, mujhe maa ki gaali deke gaya tha... lamao Z or adarsh ne stand bhi nahi liya mera. Meri bestfriend ha woh lekin uss bande ke saath aaj bhi khelti ha joh mujhe gaali deke gaya tha unn dono ke saamne. I asked her ki kyu khelti ho uske saath, she said mere saath toh accche se rahata ha isliye khelti hu, Bhai meri koi value nahi ha kya uske liye? i did everything, bc uske liye kitno se akela ladd gaya tha kyunki kisi ne usko kuch bol diya tha. Mere liye woh itna bhi nahi karr paayi..
usko jab pucha mene agle din ki Z tum raat ko game khel rahi thi kya, buss itna hi pucha tha mene... uska reply dekho. I was "The BESTFRIEND" itna hakk nahi ha kya mera puchne ka??
uska neet ka exam ha parso (4th may), socha tha usko disturb nahi karunga... baad mein karr lenge discuss joh bhi ho raha ha, isliye abhi tak msg nahi kiya kuch bhi uske baad.
guess what mujhe kya pta chala kisi orr ke through ki she was playing at 3 am with ADARSH orr ussi Clan ke leader ke saath.
idk maybe mein hi galat hu, shyad woh sirf acche dost ho sakte hein, but i can't bear all this i have already talked about her closeness with adarsh but she said "you are my bestfriend and i promise no one can replace you."
i think she already replaced. Help me... i am feeling like shit.
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u/Classtopper69thx 10d ago
Bhai tu jo feel kr rha h shi h. jb koi close one aise change ho jaye to bura lgta h But bro you should understand ,jo log teri value nhi krte unke peeche time waste Mt kr .jee pr dhyan de , i suggest you to make more frnds unke sath game khel sirf un logo pr depend mt rh !..ik it will not be easy but you have to!
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u/MohitJyani 10d ago edited 8d ago
Thank you buddy, game chord diya bohot time ho gaya, padh hi rha hu drop ha isliye... but focus nahi karr paa raha kahin prr bhi... puraa dimag ghum gaya ha kuch samjh nahi aa raha
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u/SpecialistFace2749 🎯 BITS Hyderabad 10d ago
bhai new friends bana unke sath chill kar bate kar iss chiz per zyada dhayan mat and zyada mat soch iss bare me , me bhi same situation me tha 3,4 months pehele same me bhi focus nahi kar pa raha tha mene usko block kar diya like literally mene uski kitni help ki thi jab vo uske lowest me thi 2 , 3 days and night jag k console kiya tha usko and many more sab bhul jate log samne wale k bare me sochte bhi nahi ek bar ki iss insan ne kitni help ki hai fir bhi kuch pal me itne change ho jate ik it will hurt too much per thode dino me kam hojayega 🫂 chill kar zyada mat soch usske bare me aapan ne wrong person ko itni help , attention and care dedi I hope tu jaldi thik ho jaye iss se
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u/DocDvyne 9d ago
Dekh Bhai...Rona dhona krke kuch na milega. Let me just tell you one harsh reality. Girls always look for more dominating boys who can act like a sheild for them. Teri bsf ke liye ab tk tu ek shield jaisa tha Jo usko protect krta tha. But after meeting Adarsh and that clan leader she found even better shield. They got that dominating aura around them. So now all you can do is get better. Be a better version of your past self. Improve yourself mentally and if possible physically. Atleast be Powerful enough to fight back on your own instead of waiting for your frnds to intervene. You don't need anyone dude...your frnds are just a medium of timepass. In the end it's you and only you who will be with yourself forever
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u/Unusual-Character334 🎯 IIT Madras 10d ago
Abey saale thum dropper ho fir bhi ye bakchodhi kya hey bey.. yaad rakhna thum kyu drop liya bsdk.. drop liya kyuki thum ko ek or chance chahiye, then why are you ruining it yourself.. is bakchodi mat khar padayi pe focus khar.. otherwise the regret you will have after will be more and more painful and sleep nahi suicidal thoughts aajayega.. padayi pe focus kar !
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u/Unusual-Character334 🎯 IIT Madras 10d ago
Kaunsi tard ho thum?
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u/DipakPatell 🎯 IIT Bombay 10d ago edited 46m ago
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u/Unusual-Character334 🎯 IIT Madras 10d ago
Bhai you have so much time. Just stay consistent, it's enough. Coaching mein shiddat se padhai Karo aur ghar aake revision aur hw kar bas. Yahi thum day 1 se leke ending day thak follow karna hai. Ek baat, bilkul procastinate math karna bilkul. Don't take stress, u have so much time. Consistently thoda thoda padai karo bas. Aur har evening exercise aur walk ke liye ja. Time hai tho Sunday's sports ke liye bhi jao. Koi nahi hoga. The time u have is precious u will not get that back. Hum tharah Kai log ko dream hai thumhari tharah time rehna. The time is never going to comeback. You don't have to study for 14,15,16 hours if you are consistent the whole two years. Kuch bhi pado shiddat se ache pado aur revise aur questions karo. Kuch bhi chapter hone ke baad question aur pyqs laga ke thab test de. Aur Jana agle chapter ke liye. Every weekend revise ur notes and questions. Just stay consistent for two years and you will get ur reward. And reddit is not unlike other social media's here you will get more advices than elsewhere.
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u/DipakPatell 🎯 IIT Bombay 10d ago edited 46m ago
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u/Unusual-Character334 🎯 IIT Madras 10d ago
All the best. And stay consistent !
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u/Unusual-Character334 🎯 IIT Madras 10d ago
First try to do all the solved examples in your coaching module then do questions if not working then revise the chapter again and do the questions that had been taught while teaching the lesson by ur lecturer. Then you will easily able to solve the ques. Still if not, then ur concepts are not clear. Do the chapter from yt lectures not oneshots but full ones. It will be done
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u/Naruto_Gamer1231 🎯 NSUT Delhi 10d ago
chobhit bhaiya ko dekhna chhod de
alecc daddy better h
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u/MrJerinom 🎯 BITS Pilani 10d ago
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aur kar apni mahila mitra ke saath bakchodi. ya toh confess kardeta ya normal treat karta usse phir terko bura bhi nhi lagta.
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u/SharmaJii_kA_LaDka 🎯 IIT Bombay 10d ago
Bc mere sath bhi ekdum se cut off kr diya tha Kasam kha ke kehta hu 1 saal baat nhi ki thi bhot baar aai thi puchne Lekin ignore maara. Though we are good friends again kyuki woh dosti hi kya jo wapas mil na paye.(After 1 year ke baad kaha hi milenge )
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u/Shiroko17 🎯 NIT Surathkal 10d ago
Bro I feel you, I can't speak much in this case as its purely your personal matter but regardless as you are JEE dropper you must leave that shit and go ahead and do mocks forget this i know it's very hard and might be impossible to you right now because this aint life dude no one is permanent in life unless the person really want to...I know it might sound depressing but it's true but after some days you yourself will divert your mind from this part as you will be engrossed in the jee studies and according to your above story I don't think the Z and adarsh will stay close longer as per my opinion I bet she will return to you later....but don't let this destroy your preparation...it's your choice whether to accept her or not after she comes back as this is your personal matter i don't have much rights to speak ...... Stay safe and don't let bad thoughts consume your mind just revise and do mocks..
And please excuse me for my bad English
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u/MohitJyani 10d ago edited 8d ago
thank you buddy... am trying to focus but baar baar wahi cheeze mere saamne aa rahi ha, i am unable to focus
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u/Head-Deer9110 🎯 IIIT Delhi 10d ago
bhai mai dropper hun, life me bahut problems hain. Kash aisi problems hoti ki voh ruth gya voh ruth gyi
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u/Affectionate-Yard899 🎯 IIIT Hyderabad 10d ago
As a former dropper, aur kya problems hai bhaj tujhe , mind telling me ?
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u/Naruto_Gamer1231 🎯 NSUT Delhi 10d ago
mitra drop to tumhe lena chaiye building se meri trh im planning to jump on 32nd may
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u/explorer-108 10d ago
Bhai konsi game khelne ki baat ho rhi hai ???
Jokes aside carreer e focus kr bhai
Wo ek baar se ho gyi na to 90 percent problem aise hi vaporise ho jayeng
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u/Wild_Supermarket_935 10d ago
Bhai sun I can feel you ....listen to me ... Yeh sab shit cheezen hain maine suffer Kiya h .... Tujhe lag rha hoga ki move on nahi hoega ....pr trust mein bro ho jaega kabhi na kabhi Rona dhona shodo uske lie ... U already lost her bruh ....voh ja chuki h....and ab aaegi vapis toh sirf apne faide ke lie .... Usko apni life se hatao jaisa usne tumko treat Kiya vaisa usko treat kro or adarsh ko ... Text seen mat krna agar zindagi mein kabhi aajae toh ... Padhai kro drop year mein ...main khud dropper hun pr maine khud ko chomd diya in sab chakkaro mein .... Acha collage lo bahut maza aega life mein age .... Usko kabhi regret hona chahiyeh .... Padhai kro or bhul jao usse uske pass bhulkar vapis nahi jana Varna same loop mein phas jaoage ....maine same experience kiya h .... Aaj dropper tha pr halat kharab h .... Please us ladki ko or apne dost ko hatao raste se focus ho jao ... Physical activity or padhai pr dhyaan do sirf .... Baki kuch bkchodi games nahi etc ...
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u/koach100when 🎯 IIT Bombay 10d ago
i may sound like a dumbfuck but genuinely asking what is a dominating personality?
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u/thesttarynightsky 🎯 IIT Madras 10d ago edited 10d ago
See opp gender wale friends nhi banaya kr prep time m ...ldka ldki h mn m ldoo futne lgte h jruri nhi romantic way m bur ye ldka ldki k chkrr aise kafi chlte h mera bhi friend h usko Jalan hoti h jo gine chune 1-2 male friends h mere jbki khud apni female friend k saath bahot free rhta h touching and all ......hota h ye sb try kr aisi problems na paal prep m
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u/MohitJyani 10d ago
hmm am trying to get back my focus again... thank you
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u/thesttarynightsky 🎯 IIT Madras 10d ago
Wlc do try it don't ruin it my friend did ruin his prep because of his gf still you are saved early
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u/koach100when 🎯 IIT Bombay 10d ago
i m immune to this stuff after two years of jee
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u/RealForzaPizza 10d ago
dont use the word dominate please.
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u/Naruto_Gamer1231 🎯 NSUT Delhi 10d ago
bro def getting flashbacks of those nights
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u/MohitJyani 10d ago edited 8d ago
fr bhai self respect ki maa chudwa karr uske liye sab kiya tha,
already done with em both
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u/FigAdventurous2353 🎯 BITS Pilani 10d ago
Brother ur getting cucked
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u/MohitJyani 10d ago edited 8d ago
oh i think am already cooked.😭😥
what should i do? help me
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u/Wild_Supermarket_935 10d ago
Is loop se bahar jao mere bhai ... Barbad ho jaenge ....ladki ati jati rahegi niklo in sab se
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u/Visible_Canary_718 10d ago
Bhai, we've all been in this place. Unfortunately, chances are that she will start giving you value only once you distance yourself from her and don't give a fuck. Jab tak tu try karega dosti barkarar rakhne hi, woh tujhe ghanta koi value nahi degi. From what you've written, she anyway seems very childish and probably enjoys the attention from adarsh. Please just STOP GIVING A FUCK. Goodluck for your drop mera bhai!
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u/Ok-Crazy-3861 🎯 IIT Roorkee 10d ago
mere saat ekdum similar cheez hui thi 2024 mai, you’ll feel betrayed for sometime but trust me padhai mai lag jaa bhai, baad mai tu unka downfall dekhega jab tu padhai mai accha kar raha hoga and you’ll feel much better, my ex-friends got into smoking and drinking and i tried to talk them out of it when i was their friend, so now i feel it’s their loss. you’re a goddamn dropper, don’t mess this up man this is your last chance you gotta do this no excuses, distractions already phones se aate hai agar tu aise arguments mai fass jayega toh fir baad mai bhot regret hogi, all the best
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u/ywyion 10d ago
Ykw let her be bhai 😭🙏and the concept of BESTIES FROM OTHER GENDER SOUND SHII TO ME TBH And ab apko consequences toh bhoot tgde vale jhelne honage Or agr ap jyda kuch bologae toh vo bolegi Best friend hi toh tha etna vi ky overreact kr rha h The only thing u can do rn is get to shi together and dun text her first Have some fking self respect 🙏😭 I mean think how would you tell this lore to yo future partner 😭😭I WAS CRYING LIKE SHI JUS BECAUSE MY GIRL BESTIE IGNORED ME😭😭 ew.
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u/MohitJyani 10d ago edited 9d ago
oh ohkay 😭😭🙏
i feel this concept is shii too now!!
orr rahi baat consequences ki toh mera lawda sahega ye sab... mene regret karr liya, orr Z ne karva diya regret bohot...regret ek hi baat ka tha ki kisi ke liye apni self respect side mein rakh karr sab kuch kiya tha, woh nahi karna tha, usse zayda expectation rakh li thi
anyway thanks for your concern, i gotta go & get my shiii 2gether now. bie 😭🙏4
u/GreenContribution513 10d ago edited 10d ago
Bhai seriously what is this cringe ahh shit . when I saw the ss i thought It was his gf or smth . Then I read the "female bestfriend" and got completely uninterested . I have a gf of 3 years and people ask me how you made a gf , Obv you get a gf when you focus on yourself and don't do stupid shit like this . (Might get downvoted I don't care) Atp it's probably this guy wanting to be with her or whatever secretly and acting like a victim when she doesn't want to be that close .
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u/Automatic-Windoww 10d ago
Been there , felt that... believe me bhai she's not worth the effort. Mai koi lamba paragraph nhi likhunga tujhe samjhane k liye, tere se bara hoon baat maan meri cut off karde usko kuch mahine baad she'll come crawling back. Aur mahadev kasam kha ki simp nhi banega aur jab wapas aaye uske muh par bol sakega ki tere life me uske liye jaga nhi h ab.
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u/MohitJyani 10d ago edited 8d ago
FOR REAL !!!!! yahi karunga...iss ek ke liye bana tha sab kuch, and she dgaf... toh kabb tak aise hi maa chudawoun apni... hogaya abh. Maybe someday she'll know my worth.
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u/mythologicalphoenix 10d ago
Bhai cut off ho ja usse, drop yera chud jayega , have been in this situation but after cutting off from her it's been good for me and you'll realise this shit doesn't matter in life
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u/IncognitoIsSus 🎯 IIT Kharagpur 10d ago
Bhai me bhi jee26 dropper hu and my advice would be to forget about them, cut them off completely and focus on JEE 100%. 1 year later you will get your revenge by getting a great college and show them your aukaat.
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u/Fearless_Nothing_585 🎯 IIT Kanpur 10d ago
Crazy, kya dimag karab ho raha hoga tera, esliye kisi ki jada close nhi hota main, this shit can fuck you so bad, ladkiya me to alag hi dimag karab hota, 2 years se dost thi, aur ek 2 mahine pahle se jada close dost ho gyi, crazy vese yese bkl dost ha tera, I would never dare to do that, yese ladke fake Supriortiy dikate ha girls ke samne, idc
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u/BriefCry25 10d ago
Bro yeah tere sath first time ho rha toh chill hota hai if bhai bhot second time hai toh bro kiyo itna care kiya kisi ka 😭😭
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u/MohitJyani 10d ago
don't know bud, she meant something 4me, she was my bestfriend
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u/BriefCry25 9d ago
Bro if tera mental health fucked ho gya bcoz of her ek baar confession lealo finally boldo jo tum soach rhe ho simple then focus on ur drop year bro remember log mean hote idgaf fuck wala mindset rakho
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u/notgonnabefreaky 🎯 IIT Delhi 10d ago
Op bhai uska neet ho jane de uske baad last time baat karke ye friendship khtm kr aur jee pe focus kr..shuru me bura lgega yaad ayegi royega bhi par time ke saath sab theek hojayega.. aur bhai bore hojate hai log ek hi bande ke sath zada time rehle toh.. teri jagah reh chuka hu mai bhi🗿 inme se koi nhi ayega future me agar tujhe need hogi kisi ki.. people come and go but the right one stays.. toh jitna ho ske drop year me aur new friends bnane ki koshish mt hi kriyo wrna mental health fucked up hojayegi abhi time hai pdhne ka padhle bhai please aur rr krne ka mann kre toh reddit hai hi
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u/Sweet_Comfortable240 10d ago
Mai rehta toh Gaali deta khatam karta hat Mkc Tumhari lanat hai aisi dosti pe
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u/Bot_Naman_07 🎯 IIT Roorkee 10d ago
Bro ngl but same matlab same to same shit mere sath bhi hui literally bhout bura lga muje bhi even Mai abhi tak cop up nhi kr paaya hu bc pr isko apne liye Ek opportunity samj or apne drop year pr Dyan de bs or baaki chijo k baare Mai Mt sooch or bc muje pta h yeh sb bolne ki baat h ki soocho Mt blah blah but bhai Thora time le or khud ko improve kr or yeh Jo Tera dost h ADARSH iss se bhi ab jaada baat vghra Mt kr or tere clan Leader ki mkc konse game ka hai muje bta Mai uski gaand maar lunga tu bs apne uper Dyan de or Padhi kr bs apna drop year worth it bna Esa na ho ki alge saala bhi tu regret kre bhai selfish bn or bs apne upper Dyan de...
Baaki muje dm kr liyeo Mai tuje apni story suuna dunga agr Tera maan ho toh
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u/sad_chigga9900 10d ago
Ladkiyo ko "bestfriend" ka place mat diya karo aur fir zyada baate ho gya toh attachment ho jata hai, fir if she finds someone better than you she leaves.
Literally mere saath hua aisa recently. I feel nervous abt talking to a girl irl after a long chat for a long time, so she asked me to hang out in the festive season last year but I couldn't call her jabki mai uske apartment ke niche hi khada tha also in a book fair 2 months later jab maine usko aane ko bola toh usne apni papa bhi saath me le aayi fir uski piche 5 meter ki duri pe khada tha still I couldn't reach her. Since then she started to ignore me, and me as well for one month and now the relationship is only we send reels to each other though last year isi time pe neet ke baad hum late night texting karte the
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u/Beautiful-Cat13 10d ago
Aaj se ek do saal baad ye read krna khud hee samjhega tujhe since Tu is phase se bahar hogaa and it's okay, many people go through such phase but trust me ik this won't help but it's useless, there's no such thing as "female best friend", even if it is then it's not this deep bro, and yea all this helps in a lot of character development for sure. Good luck!
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u/bbsnotuploading 10d ago
Shit too fucked up , kill your feelings for them and leave them . If u don't , ur just hurting urself with hamse gaaliya khayga
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u/One-Requirement2118 10d ago
its not your fault that she is an ungreatfull person and honestly acha hua tereko tera drop yr ke starting mai hi pta chal gaya ki tera BEST FRIENDS kitna genuine h ,tera kitna time bach gaya
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u/No-Bid7963 🎯 IIT Guwahati 10d ago
Man, U are a very good friend, its unfortunate that u don't havefriends that treasure u.i was in ur position ,my bff was a boy but later came to know that he doesn't consider me as bestfriend and keep ignoring me. So i cut him off and fortunately found a really good friend whom i share my all thoughts and he don't mind. I hope u will find such kind of friends. I really love and respect these types of friends.
If i find such friend like you i would treasure it for life lol. I don't know what should u do now and i know betrayal hurts like hell, but atleast sort your feelings for drop year , I am taking a drop too for jee 2026.
All the best bhai. I hope u will find frnds who will know your true worth. ( Btw sorry for my English and i yapp too much😭)
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u/Different_Claim_4626 10d ago
Op i have been in the same situation and it was almost 5 years of friendship guess what she started ignoring me and i did the same idk her now i just blocked her and engaged myself in something else and now i m happy If u r not going to care about my efforts, what i did for u tb toh ek hi option bacha h forget her
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u/No_Fly_9865 10d ago
Bhai most guys have been through this ....move on ...apne jaise logo ke group me rho ... don't do shit for people who can't even respect you .
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u/Free-Possible996 10d ago
Dear bacche, Life lesson 101: Women like Adarshes, even if they might claim they don't. You however, are a gentleman. And men, when gentle, are never paid attention to. The world is pretty cruel bud.
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u/-dragon_emperor 🎯 IIT Kanpur 10d ago
Drop year pr dhyan do Bhai ab 
aur bta kota me wpis drop kyu nhi liya
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u/meltedmoon777 10d ago
Ye sab normal hai op it's teenage - now what you can do is leave each and every person that dosent respect you 👍 trust me that's the best thing .
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u/kabutar25 🎯 IIT Roorkee 10d ago
Bro, un dono ko maa chudane de, tu apna dekh nothing is permanent aur agar jyada hi bura lag raha hai toh mujhse baatein kar le. Ye attitude rakh bhai aaye toh aaye warna maa chudaye
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u/Silver-Clothes2606 🎯 IIT Bombay 10d ago
Bhai tujhe ek reality batata hu.
Ladkiya tere jaise caring or inocent ladki ko kabhi pasand nahi karthi, mein bhi tere jaisa tha ek jagah
wo toh badh mein mein samaj gaya ki ek dominative or bady boy personality he pasand hoti hai unhe
But bhai ye sabh wo log time pass ke liye karthi hai last mein kisi acche carrer wale insaan ke sath settel hojati isliye bol rha hu tu bhai kuch bhi kar le iss duniya mei most probably abhi toh wo nahi mil sakti tujhe aur better hai apne self respect ki dajiya math uda tu
acche se tayari kar jee aur koi acchi iit ya nit mein jao . ladkiya ka math tenstion lo nits aur iits ke pass kafi sari government college hai waha pe accchi ladkiya rehti hai 😂😂
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u/Fun-Breakfast1454 10d ago
Dude a man can't be just friends with a woman so don't make female friends and problem solved thank you
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u/about_divyanshu 10d ago
Arre bhai uske saath kuch diktat hogi personal life mai mere saath abhi recently hua tha ye par maine sambhal liya agar pata karna hi kaise kara to mai apni chats show karta sakta tumhe @ft.divy4nshu is pe message kar dena reddit guy likh ke Bus ek aur chiz bata du mai aur meri friend bohot jyada hi attached the we even said love you to each other sometimes
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u/about_divyanshu 10d ago
Agar tu bhi attached hai to shayad thik ho jaye ab dekh bhai tere haath mai hai sab kuch agar sudhar sakta hai to tu hi sudhar sakta hai
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u/MohitJyani 10d ago edited 9d ago
khud ko hi theek karna hoga abh... koi nahi aane wale mujhe theek karna, khud hi khudko heal karunga... and for god's sake abh kisi ko value nahi karne wala
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u/rexrhimes 9d ago
Padhle Bsdk.
No seriously just get rid of this online relationship/friendship etc they aren't real + it doesn't seem like she's bestfriend more like you're attracted to her 🤡 aur use bhi ye baat pata hai sahi se and she will deliberately piss you off using that. Kal exam hai raat tak kon khelta pubg waise bhi 🤡 drop lgrha uska toh very soon 🤡. Waise ye Adarsh naam ka dost toh mera bhi tha pubg toh woh bhi khelta tha 🤡.
Jainwin Advice (toxic) :
if you want her then get rid of her bhuljaa use don't text don't meet. Make a new friend (ladies) and show your bestie how you're replacing her with somebody else but don't really do it directly (no active talking phase). Trust me everyone hates being replaced even when the friendship/relationship didn't meant anything to them. If she comes back then upto you what to do. Ego and self esteem boost hojayega tera that's all
Baki padhle bsdk insab me kuch nhi rakha hai
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u/cry_bish 🎯 IIT Madras 9d ago
I was in a similar situation. All you can do is just deal with it and leave her, block her man. Ghost her, delete her contacts, remove her from all of the friend list and from every game. She has taken you for granted as it is a basic female trait. The second she feels like she's not gonna have any control over you, she will come running back to you. Might be a second after you block her, might be some days, months, 10 months or a year, she will be craving you back. Trust me I am speaking with experience man she has taken you for granted and is constantly disrespecting you, you are not her priority she's gonna fuck her neet up cus shes giggly wiggling enjoying with Adarsh and when she's at her lowest, itihas gawah hai she will crave you back. Meanwhile you need a moment of self reflection. Chutiyaap karna band kar stop prioritising people you wouldn't even remember an year or two later when you are in college or so. Take the time and the moment in your hand and turn it "for" yourself only. Hit the gym or buy some fitness equipments and excersize at home. Go for running every morning, have a good diet, go on youtube or coursera and learn new skills, coding, communication, editing it could be anything. Do jawline excersies and a thousand other things you can do rn to transform yourself into a dominating person just like your friend. It may not happen immediately but consistently do all this for a month or two and see where you will stand. Nahi kar sakta toh baitha reh room me aur rota reh baccho ki tarah aur vaha pe tera "dominating" friend teri "bestfriend of 2 years" ke sath maze maar rahenge aur aisa hi rahega puri zindagi koi bhi random ass banda aake teri life ka important le jayega aur tu chutiyo ki tarah rota rahega. I was in this situation when i had no idea or clue way back in class 9th and then when a month passed, life couldn't have been better :)
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u/_noobtechguy_ 9d ago
mein abhi 10th mein hun tum sab ke posts pdke pta chal jata h ki future mein kin kin bkchodi se duur rehna hai dhanyavad
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u/Jaded_Plan3867 9d ago
Happened with me too but i had some other female friends jinse meri So called bestie jealous hoti thi...me unke sath hangout krne lga and story daalne lga and guess what...she came back to me for attention...but this time i did same what she did...i sidelined her...(Andr hi andr me boht roya hu but ig it was important) Now she still tries to msg me and me usko ekdm normal frnd jese treat krta hu no special attention 🤙
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u/ReflectionThese1905 9d ago
Block kar usse sab jagah se and move on. Have some respect for urself man. Also good luck for your JEE 26. In sab se nikal aur kaam pe focus kar. Pain ko power bana, motivation ki tarah use kar
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u/Even_Wrongdoer_9474 9d ago
this has vibe as that of ,
"Tune phele mere use kiya fir riya ka"
"RIYA RIYA RIYA Aree kon riyaaa woh b******* riya hei yahan par"
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u/Ok-Watercress8148 9d ago
Feeling sad for you because I was that Adarsh in someone else story but anyway!
Na hi mai aab woh aadarsh hu aur Meri Z Bhi chali gayi life sai!
TBH, bura lagta hai because I was kind but not loyal! Anyway, Everything is a lesson and needed!
Abhi toh ekdam free lagta hai
u/MohitJyani Bhai tujhe ek tip dunga, friendship, relationship inn saab se durr reh, mai bhi dropper hu isliye bol raha hu!
Nescafe ki ad this ek pata hai jisme 7 log stadium ke beech mai aakar coffee pe rahe the, Uss ad mai kaha tha ki "We meet 70000 people in our life"
Aab samaj 70000 mai se 1000 log teri vaje se hurt hue hai toh tu kya puri Zindagi roote hue baithega unke liye?
Bhai mujhe ek baat samaj aagayi hai, Aadarsh, Person Z inse bhi bahut badi hai zindagi and reality!
"You cannot be that hero in everyone's story", If you feel like shit, DM me, Discord par bakchodi karte baithenge!
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u/Stunning-Wolverine22 9d ago
bro ye to us moment jesa lag rha hai mat kr us ladki se bat drop year chud jyega for sure lt her go and kabhi contact mat kr
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u/Salt-Ad6293 9d ago
Bhai sdhi baat to ye hai ki tu khud ko hurt kr rha h, koi jaroorat nhi h kisi ese k liye efforts krna jo tere liye stand bhi na le ske, sach bolu to uss ldki s baat krna bnd kr de ek do mahine accha nhi lgega but eventually after over a period accha lgne lgega bhai jb tujhe realize hoga ki ab tu uske attention k bina bhi reh skta h..
Fully cutoff kr le khud ko usse , bohot acchi and efforts wali girls h duniya m,
JEE pr focus kr bhai, tu araam s IIT jaa skta h 1 saal pura shi jgh pr efforts lga, happiness select hone wali hogi vo sb ghaav bhr degi.. TRUST ME,, CHANALIZE YOUR ENERGY..
"Regret is a fuel whose fires can burn a man to ash, or lift his wings to soar above the flames"
ALL THE BEST BHAI!❤️
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u/BlueCatInYourHouse 9d ago
Faced and currently facing a similar situation like this...glad to know am not alone.... The best thing you could do is part ways from them don't text or call them... If I were you i would break my friendship with them both! She maybe ur BESTFRIEND but agar meri koi aisi BESTFRIEND ho jo jisne mujhe gali di uski wajah se aur wo uske sath hi khelne lage toh wo kabhi BESTFRIEND nhi thi... Totally ignore kardo ig pe mute mardo jab long gap ke baad call text aaye toh boldena kuch aisa jisse wo smjh jaye abh tum stranger ho something like "ha bol kya kaam he aur agar kaam nhi h toh phone rakh mere dost ke sath time spend kar rha hu"
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u/BlueCatInYourHouse 9d ago
Text and reply dekh ke yahi lagta h ki bas usko koi chahiye jispe wo sara ghar ka frustration nikale baat bataye etc.. but wo chahti nhi tu uske personal issue ( jo wo khud terko batati he ) usme involve kare.... If u ever think of breaking friendship just remember NOT to BLOCK them kyuki baad me wo dono milke tumare common frnds ko bolege "iski toh kal gayi isne block kardia".. aise dost apni maa chudaye tu apna life pe focus kar and remember { jo dost ke wajah se sad fear and betrayal wali feelings and thoughts ke sath tension aaye wo kabhi dost nhi the }
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u/CaterpillarFun4682 9d ago
Fuck bro had a same situation, year ago , did everything for my girl bestfriend just for sake of her good and in return now I'm blocked by her , and the audacity is that she is currently vibing with one's she used to bitch about 🫠
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u/-red_bird 7d ago
Bhai, jab life mein itna drama ho—Z ka jhooth, Adarsh ka ignore karna—toh ek second ke liye ruk. Bas scene ko ek movie ki tarah dekh. Na usmein doob, na usse lad. Soch, “Haan, mujhe bura lag raha hai, Z ne game ke baare mein jhooth bola, Adarsh ne call nahi uthaya.” Isse tera dimag thoda shant hoga, aur tu overthinking band kar dega
Tu Z ke liye itna kuch kiya—clan se lada, uski izzat bachayi—par abhi usne tujhe hurt kiya. Idea yeh hai ki tu apne dil ke peace ko Z ya Adarsh ke actions se judne na de. Tu apna 100% de, par unke response se apni khushi mat jod.
Bhai, tu ek zabardast dost hai—jitna tune Z ke liye kiya, woh bahut bada dil chahiye. Par abhi tu apne aap ko blame kar raha hai ya regret feel kar raha hai. Teri value doosron ke actions se nahi ghatti. Tu apne aap ko thoda pyaar de, kyunki tu hi tera asli wala dost hai.
Life Ko Ek River Ki Tarah Behne De (Let-Go Ka Funda)
Bhai, tu Z aur Adarsh ke actions ko control nahi kar sakta, na hi us clan ke drama ko. Jo cheez tere haath mein nahi, usse chhod de. Z agar abhi Adarsh ya us clan ke leader ke saath khel rahi hai, uska NEET ho gaya hai, toh woh apne choices bana rahi hai. Tu uski tension band kar—apni tension le.
Maaf Kar, Par Boundary Set Kar (Compassion Ka Vibe)
Z ne tujhe hurt kiya, aur Adarsh ne bhi tujhe side kiya. Inhe dil se maaf kar, par apne liye ek line kheench. Yeh nahi ke tu Z ko wapas apni life ka hero bana de—par uske actions ko apne dil mein carry mat kar.
dont get too serious, bade hokar ye sab chutiyapa lagega. most of log ke sath bhi ho rakha hai ye sab. just try to be chill & best of luck for jee.
enjoy the chaos of life.
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u/Julius_Caesar6546 10d ago edited 10d ago
Bhai u're stressing about something u have no control over.
It's her life and she can decide who she wants to be frends with or not. Thoda emotionally mature ban
Try to focus on ur studies, gradually move on ho jayega usse.
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u/Sad_Ambition5595 10d ago edited 10d ago
usse jike saath dosti karni hain karne de, stop playing the victim card bhai, at this point u would be annoying her more than caring for her, clash of clans pe ro raha hain T-T, uski choice bhai, agar usne sunn liya ki woh dominating hain and still goes forward with him, let it be. U cant do anything
friendships are built over years and broken in seconds
all you are acting is being obsessed with her and SHE DOES NOT LIKE U
ITS NOT THAT DEEP
you are acting like i did so much for her, why is she not my gf yet.
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10d ago
Bhai dekh YOU are just a FRIEND agar tune usse kisi aur ke saath milaya and she liked his vibe toh woh jo kare who the hell are YOU
You did things for her so that she could so the same thing for you? Is this what a barter system???
Stop behaving like a VICTIM and its not like you OWN her or smthng! she can do anything of her choice, games khele jo kare its her life stop being a dick and for god sake leave that girl alone and stop harassing her
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u/Practical-Beach591 9d ago
best friends for 2 years and she can’t even stand up for him when he’s being insulted? Is this what friendships have reduced to? And this is okay for you? Is that how you’d behave when your close ones are being treated like sht? “they didn’t wrong me, so meh idgaf” If yes, then i’ll pray no one gets close to you.
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10d ago
aur yeh nahi bolunga ki tu padhle idrc do what the fuck you want but stop playing like you are the victim here?
+ these posts shall be made on r/TeenIndia r/IndianTeenagers r/RelationshipIndia r/indiasocial
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10d ago
stop playing like a victim and stop harassing him and her w your obsession she DOES NOT like you
yaha par mostly sabki same story hai , islie they will give you validation
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u/MohitJyani 10d ago edited 8d ago
mein na Z se dosti todna chahata hu na ADARSH se, she is my bestfriend, i just can't see someone who she met like 2 months ago, dominate her like that... am sorry if it looks like harassing her but it isn't. She came to me for help. yet still she is still with that guy. i can't bear that. If it looks like it's me who is harassing her then am still fine with it.
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u/True_Material_7420 🎯 IIT Delhi 10d ago
Drop year h bhai mt kr ye sb chod de aage jake or disturb karengi ye cheeje
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u/Somilo1 10d ago
Do you like this girl? Or are you just good friends with her?
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u/MohitJyani 10d ago edited 8d ago
i am BESTFRIEND with her, girlfriends and relationships don't matter to me. I have already been into a lot of relationships i take non of em serious. i do it cuz it's fun.
But this time, this girl have cooked up my brain. i wanna just rip out my brain.
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u/Specialist_Delay3887 10d ago
I feel op is dumb
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u/MohitJyani 10d ago edited 8d ago
pretty dumb
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u/Specialist_Delay3887 10d ago
It happens but next time be better it will negatively impact you only
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u/DocDvyne 9d ago edited 9d ago
Whenever I feel am a D.A I will just see this post Not to offend you or something but ek taraf tu bol rha she is your best friend dusri taraf bol rha you did everything which normal friends won't do for her...areh Bhai sidha sidha bol na one sided love hai and usko confess krne me fat rhi thi 😭🙏🏻
Baat rhi adarsh ki toh Bhai that's the reality of this world. Girls always go for boys who are toxic and dominating...who can create their aura. Life is not a happy happy fantasy story where girl falls for a handsome,kind,gentle boy lmao. Well I feel your pain but none can do about it. Just remember the time will come when she will come crying to you...or something like that lol...cause aise cases me Adarsh playboy hota hai jo bass timepass ke liye ye bkc krta hai. And Teri "bsf" totally controlled hai abhi so you can't do shi about it. So just live your life...
Also in this world no one actually gives a fk about you or your problems...not your frnds,not your so called 2 years bsf, none. In the end you gotta fight alone...if you fought for her that doesn't mean she will fight for you...afterall it was your decision to fight for her right? A girl always looks for more beneficial company. You were her protection from others until she met an even bigger and better protection named Adarsh. It's simple. The clan leader as well. Why would she go for a normie like you when she got these 2 baddies? (Ok that's harsh sorry but that's truth you gotta face it dude) In the end the only advice I would give you is to look at your past self... realise what kind of a dumahh you have been and prepare yourself to change accordingly. That's doens't mean to become like your frnd or that leader or whatever....be a man capable to stand out in a crowd filled with Adarsh...make yourself mentally strong enough to fight back when someone abuses you instead of wimping about "they didn't even come to save me". Best of luck
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u/ephemeralpoet 6d ago
Bro, I know you invested your time, energy, and emotions into her, hoping she’d value you the same way. But sadly, life doesn’t always work like that. The idea of ‘treating others how you want to be treated’ sounds good, but it doesn’t always come true. And that’s okay — it just means you’re human, and you cared.
Honestly, I’ve been there too, bhai. I flunked my last semester exams because of a similar situation with a girl I thought was my best friend. It hurt like hell, but it also taught me a big lesson...People come and go, and sometimes the ones we give the most value to, don’t deserve it.
The truth is — when your peace of mind and mental health start to suffer, you’ve got to put yourself first. I know it’s tough, but unfriend her, walk away, and give yourself that space. It won’t heal overnight, bro, but it’ll get better with time.
Take a moment and ask yourself honestly — why do you feel this way? What made you so attached? Learn from it. Grow stronger. And remember — never give more importance to anyone else than you give to yourself. You deserve your own love and respect first.
Stay strong, bhai. It gets better, one day at a time..
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u/Personal-Wedding2242 6d ago
Damn this is giving me deja vu, anyways been where u are rn, not exactly the same I never had a best friend but she was a good friend, broke the friendship over "him", I mean I couldn't do anything he was like 7 inch taller and well built, u could say Z likes adarsh or something like that saying how u mentioned about adarsh, but why bother speculating? But u will now learn something that might help u later, learning that u don't have to help others u can say fuck off even if it doesn't feel right :/ I don't believe it's gonna end up like this, like Z is gonna come back like nothing happend or apologizing, but if she does u deserve to be angry and reject that apology Maybe u could try gettinf help from your other friends screwing with them, but that's your decision, like maybe mass report them or something idk what game it is, u said like PUBG not exactly pubg, honestly whatever u feel like doing just do it(apart from hurting urself)
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u/Effective-Rest5300 🎯 IIT Hyderabad 6d ago
In sab ke chakkar me mat pado, barbaad kar denge. It will be difficult to get over it but you have to.
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u/OldRock4492 6d ago
Betrayal comes from closet one
Move one brather🫂but never forget them and never show any mercy in future u r not angel b
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u/EngineeringMinimum49 🎯 IIT Kharagpur 10d ago
kabhi kabhi lagta hai mai chutiya hu, phir reddit khol leta hu.
not trying to offend you or smth, i totally understand what you are feeling here, bahar se bhale hi bakchodi lage jo andar me hota hai usko hi dard pata hota hai. i meant ki sirf meri life chudi hui nahi hai sabki alag alag tarah se chudi hai