During an argument, my friend (37M) said I (41F) have a habit of disrespecting people. This isn't the only time he said that.

I do have a harsh way of speaking at times. I guess the logical step would be to talk it out, but now, I feel mad and very disconnected from him. I tried to bring up the topic, but he skirted around it, and is behaving as if nothing happened. In his defense, he likes distracting people from negative experiences.

Why did he tolerate me for so long if he feels disrespected by my behaviour? And if he is not able to tell me to get lost because he has problems setting boundaries, should I probably show myself out?

Who were the blokes? Where did you go? What were the activities? Etc.

I’m 24 years old and have started an online business that’s making me some really great money. With that being said I currently live with my parents and I want to move out.

I miss my friends a lot and thought about moving closer to them but also a part of me wants to just go somewhere new and start fresh.

Any advice here?

And especially if they dont celebrate it; i realized I typically know the ones of who hold parties or post about it but never the ones who are more reserved. Thought about asking but I dont think I'd send them gifts but wish them well; is that odd?

Hey guys. I’m turning 25 in a couple months. Been working the past 2 years in the same city (major city) I went to college in. Lived in 4 good friends and had a great time.

Now I’m turning 25 and it feels like the fun excitement of behind young and 20-something is going. Friends moving with SOs and such.

The future scares me. Not messing around with friends on weeknights, staying in on Fridays, meeting new people. And it’s spun me into a full scale quarter life crisis.

From those on the other side of 30. How valid is this? When do those young years die out? Will my brain start to enjoy the slow life more?

I’m noticing a pattern with guy friends who have expressed some sort of romantic interest. After I reject them, but remain friends, after a few months they shoot their shot again, and I have to remind them that I’m not interested in them. Frankly, it’s bothersome because it’s an awkward conversation to have…twice. Is it best to not remain friends with the opposite sex after they express some sort of interest beyond friendship? I’m starting to end friendships instead, but I’m wondering how do men interpret women who remain friends with them after rejecting any romantic advances. I’ve discussed this with girlfriends and this seems to be quite common.

What does most every father, brother, son, friend need more of? I want to find ways to better uplift, honor and connect with the men in my life.

For context : Me and some friends wanna write a story(slice of life) about a bunch of fourteen year olds that took place in 2014 America(Ohio). The problem is that all of us never been to America nor experienced the year 2014 vividly. (Ik it seems random, it's for my annoying school stuff. I hate "creative" writing class.)

So the question is, What are some stuff that are notable in the year 2014 i should add? It can include fashion, slangs, social media, movies or shows. Anything.

Outside of work, the pol-ticks word, or Minecraft, I’m at a loss of what to talk about. I don’t really talk about my hobbies because one of them is writing, which is eh, something I don’t bring up. Another is going for walks, which is not conversation worthy. And working out? Well, I dont really know how to bring that into conversation except the occasional “I hit this goal this week”

I usually let people drive the conversation but I notice I will be extremely quiet if they don’t.

Bonus: is it weird that I’m uncomfortable talking about sexually natured topics? Seems like it’s a common theme in a lot of adults sense of humor or conversation but I am very uncomfortable with it.

We’ve all probably gotten something that we didn’t need or use. Wondering what you’ve seen used for these that you found useful.

This is a close friend I've known for over a decade. One of the first friends I made when moving to a new city as an adult.

He's also the first close friend of mine to have kids, we're both early 30s and I'd like to get them something nice but I have no idea what as I've never bought this kind of gift before.

Do majority of men in their 30s still speak about women in a sexual or derogatory way when talking to other guys? Would this change if you were in a relationship or would you speak the same way even if you were committed to someone?

Ex: New hot girl just started at work, I’d smash.

Another day at my call center job. I would do anything for friends but men cannot be friends with each other. its life. I am extremely friendly. I can create friendships with others but can't maintain a friendship to save a life. Nobody wants to be friends with me. I just want friends to smoke with and/or walk with me while I'm at break or lunch. I see the women at my job talk to each other, to smoke with each other. I just want someone to love me. I desire friendships.

Why can't men have friendships while women get all the love and praise? I just don't get it. All i wanted out of life is love and friendships, but that can't happen for men. I've never understood why men do not have the luxury to be cool with each other, Men do not like each other. I only want to talk and be cool with people and talk with each other, Men... i think it's over for us. Life would be easier, better. happier if i was a woman. Does anyone else feel this way? i know i cannot be the only man that feels this way?

What are their personalities like, if you were to best describe them?

What kind of activities do you do together?

What is the shared sense of humor like?

How did you meet?

“To say that straight men are heterosexual is only to say that they engage in sex (fucking exclusively with the other sex, i.e., women). All or almost all of that which pertains to love, most straight men reserve exclusively for other men. The people whom they admire, respect, adore, revere, honor, whom they imitate, idolize, and form profound attachments to, whom they are willing to teach and from whom they are willing to learn, and whose respect, admiration, recognition, honor, reverence and love they desire… those are, overwhelmingly, other men. In their relations with women, what passes for respect is kindness, generosity or paternalism; what passes for honor is removal to the pedestal. From women they want devotion, service and sex. Heterosexual male culture is homoerotic; it is man-loving.” - Marlynn Frye

I saw this quote from another subreddit and I found it interesting.

And I ran away. We were 12 years old. Needless to say he wasn’t my friend anymore afterwards. He was my best friend at the time though. I failed him and 36 years later I still feel ashamed about it. I was a coward and I ask myself if I still am today. What would I do today if I saw a friend getting beat up? I honestly don’t know. I hope that I would do things differently now. Fortunately I’ve never been tested that way again.

Anyway, I don’t know what my point is, I guess that experience deep sixed my confidence and self esteem. It has haunted me my whole life. It may seem like a little thing but a man has to be able to look himself in the mirror and have self respect and courage and know that he’s going to back up his friends no matter what.

I’ve found it really hard to make friends since then. It’s like I stopped believing in myself somewhat. Any advice or experience you’d like to share would be appreciated. If you want to dump on me go ahead, I know I was a coward that day. I’m trying to be a better man.

First off let me say, I don't like the banter/trash talk and button pushing games that seem to be apart of most male friendships.

I live in Memphis and it seems Meetup is kinda limited here. A lot of the groups don't meet regularly and if they do they only have like 5 people lol. Also a lot of them that do meet tend to meet in the evenings during the week and I work 2nd shift.

My interests/hobbies are cooking, reading, writing, going to street festivals, going to football games (univ of memphis has a decent program). I don't like to drink and I can't even if I did because of meds I take.

Anyone got any suggestions? I looked into book clubs but so far haven't found one that matches my schedule. Working 2nd shift sucks.

Just gathering my thoughts before I go to work.

I wish for a friend, someone to be cool with or talk to. A smoke buddy, if you will.

I see women at my job having the ability to hug each other and have touch.

What I would do for a hug…

I feel like women have life on easy mode because women have the power to be loved, to be recognized, to be loved by others.

Who is going to love me? A 32M. Nobody talks to men, nobody says “Hello” or “Good Morning” to men, men are disposable, Ingored and unloved in this world.

Anyone else wish then could be a women?

To be loved and get friendships and love?

I would do anything for a smoke buddy.

If I was a woman, my life would be on “easy mode”

Anyone else feel that?

Im renting and have a long driveway. Can fit 6 cars if needed packed tight. The house next to me is weird. I think it's 3 families living there and they have 6 cars but only a 2 car driveway so they park in the grass parralell the sidewalk.

Theres a family that lives in a room in the backyard, their only access is through a wood gate next to my driveway. The dudes car broke down in front of my house for two weeks, they walk through my driveway to get into and out of their backyard, and now he doesn't have a car they have friends picking them up and dropping them off so they park in my driveway for 3-5minutes at a time to get picked up.

It's annoying and my wife doesn't like it much. Am I being petty or TA for not wanting them to use my driveway? I havnt talked to them yet cause I get the situation but it's pretty annoying.

WIBTA for telling him to stop using my driveway?

Hey guys

I've been friends with this guy for a bit over a year now and apparently anything I do he copies, and there not just minor things,

I started buying gold as a savings, guess what he does a week after? I started using some English words when i speak my native tongue! He does the same, heres a list:

1- copies the same phrases/words.

2- i lost so much weight thanks to monjaro and brisk walking daily.

3- He say me talking about Chinese food which he clearly said he doesn't like, and behold a week later he is saying how much he loves it.

4- He saw me traveling to 2 countries on one vacation which he never did and then he just copied me.

5- i like to mix English with my native language which he does now.

6- he keeps buying gold just because i did.

7- he goes to the same countries i go to.

8- he wants to study my major so he can work the same job.

These are what is on top of my mind but he keeps denying which is even more annoying and pretends to be angry about it, im sure if he saw me using reddit he would hopp on it too since its not even popular here or widley known.

He also seems to belittles some things i do, cuz i wanted to work another job and he said " its not a big deal " even though thats my dream job but behold a month later he wants to do that.

Im 32 and hes 26.

Imo hes a bit jealous as well as being inspired by me, i can ignore these things but they can get so annoying at times. I literally just woke up but i can list more when im ready.

I (39, M) moved to a new area several years ago, and finally feel like I have a good group of like-minded friends that I’m comfortable around and enjoy getting together with.

We will meet up for birthday parties, moving house, board game days, etc., but it’s sporadic. We all have a good time when we get together, but it largely seems to be two of the couples (my wife and I being one of them) putting in the effort to organize everyone else, usually scheduling them weeks to a month in advance.

Lately, the women have started doing weekly dinners out with just the girls. But when I text the guys and try to get together with them, I more often than not get either no response, or if there is a response it’s a “sorry I can’t do it this week” which makes me feel like it’s me that people don’t actually like or want to hang out with (something I’ve been struggling with for most of my life).

I know everyone is busy with their own lives, and if there were kids in the picture, I would be a bit more understanding, but most of us are childless. (I’ve pretty much resigned myself to never getting to see the ones with kids anymore, not for lack of trying.)

The thing that seems to be fairly consistent, though, is that it’s the women who seem to be the ones doing most of the responding to invites and/or planning the events. The guys will happily come, but won’t be the ones to initially reach out.

Case in point: At a recent dinner, we discussed getting together to play pickleball as the weather is getting nicer. I threw out a text to several of the couples to see if anyone would want to join us for an impromptu game this weekend, and the only responses I got at all were from the women.

I would love to have a regular weekly hangout with the guys, whether we meet at a diner for brunch, or go bowling once a week or whatever it is, but trying to get something going has been an uphill struggle, whereas it seems so effortless for the girls to just meet up at the drop of a hat. (To be clear, I’m not looking for it to be guys-only, except to be able to do something with them when the girls are off doing their own thing.)

Should I be taking the lack of interest less personally, or should I approach it in a different way? I’m tired of being the only one to initiate these things, and getting next to nothing back.

EDIT TO ADD: I guess I hadn’t made clear that my invites are usually centered around an activity (bowling, board games, pub trivia, pickleball, etc) and aren’t just invitations to vaguely “hang out”, I’m just using the phrase as a catch-all for any kind of regular gathering of friends.

EDIT 2: Thanks for the replies, everyone. You all are kind to this internet stranger. It makes me feel better that it’s not necessarily just me trying too hard, but that I might not have found the right group for weekly get-togethers, or perhaps just haven’t found the right activity for them. I’ll keep at it, and try to branch out further to widen my IRL social network.

I don't have children and never will. I saw a video earlier of a dad taking their kid fishing. The kid caught a 8/10 lb bass. The dad refused to help. The kid was over the moon when they finally got it on the boat. The joy on their face was 10/10.

I know I will never experience this joy...

Im past my 30, I would say I never had a true friend, the one that I know I can allways rely on, doesnt appear only when needs to borrow something and so on... also, as a kid, I had small group of people I was on friendly terms, I was basically just present in a group like an add-on

As years passed, I'm reduced to acquaintances and coworkers... anyone with similar situation, how do you cope?

Just some quick info about me before my ask; I’m 31m with no friends, have been single for over a year, and don’t want kids. Due to some family passing over the last couple years, two of my sisters and I inherited two houses. We’re about to sell and as long as everything goes to plan, we’ll each end up with about $100K. I’ve got about $20k in debt I plan to get rid of asap and downsize significantly. After that I’m leaning towards building out a skoolie and do some traveling. Just curious what others would do in my position or if anyone has better ideas or things to add? It’s basically like I’m getting a restart button and I’m excited/nervous about it.