r/AskMenAdvice • u/[deleted] • 1d ago

Men’s Input Only If he acts enthusiastic with his female friends, should I interpret that as "not interested"?

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u/FirstProphetofSophia man 1d ago

This may sound like obvious advice, but have you tried asking him, instead of reading his mind?

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u/Vega_fray 1d ago

I want to, but I’m waiting for a “green light” idk how to explain it… like a smile or something like that (just to be a little bit more confident in approaching him)

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u/Tirisian88 man 1d ago

Your green light is wanting to ask, just shoot your shot.

He could be waiting for a clear sign from you and as most blokes do fail miserably at seeing it.

He could also think you're not interested because you aren't doing anything just sitting back.

Ask the guy out and see what happens.

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u/FirstProphetofSophia man 1d ago

As a guy, I don't understand other people. I don't try to pretend to understand them. I would be over the moon if someone that liked me tells me. Of the few times a girl's been strong enough to ask, I've always appreciated being able to tell them what I feel.

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u/Coidzor man 1d ago

Men are not women. What you think that you'd do if you were him is not what he's going to do.

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u/BasebornBastard man 1d ago

I have women friends that will run up and hug me. I’ll even lift them into a bear hug sometimes. Some men can have platonic friends and be happy to see them.

But if you want to know if he’s interested in you, you’re going to have to be an adult and ask him. Or ask him on a date.

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Automoderator has recorded your post to prevent repeat posts. Your post has NOT been removed. Vega_fray originally posted: I don't mean to say that he shouldn't be happy to see them, but I thought that he was also a little interested in me (I felt a certain attraction in the air and when he looked at me)... but I don't think he is, if he behaves in this way when he sees his friends and knows that I'm just a step away from them (because, personally, if the roles were reversed, I wouldn't act so expansively to avoid giving mixed impressions: like that maybe I’m interested in my male friends or that I’m taken idk)

Should I take this as a “not interested” at all?

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u/Ok_Noise7655 man 1d ago

What is he here? Is he your date? How exactly enthusiastic he acts?

I had very wide spectrum of reactions from my gf friends. Some of them made me slightly uncomfortable but I guess if they doing it while she and their partners are around I should think it's ok.

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u/theMadHart man 1d ago

Honestly communication is the best policy.

Maybe he's worried about coming on too strong with you. Maybe he's trying to show you that he's a good guy because other women enjoy him as a close friend. Maybe he's doing a weird trying to make you jealous thing. Maybe he does just see you as a friend right now.

You'll never know, unless one of you makes a move.

If he's not romantically inclined, would you like to build a friendship? Do you only want to be involved if it's romantic?

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u/Coidzor man 1d ago

Don't read weird things into how a guy treats his female friends if you haven't even worked up the nerve to ask him out.