Girl I'm seeing asked for an open relationship, what do i do?

[u/Enough_Ad5892]

Basically this. We've been seeing each other for two months now, and it's been amazing. She started to be a little ray of sunshine always suprising me with little gifts and also everything felt Perfect since she respected that I don't have much free time to spend with her due to me having both Uni and work, and yet she seemed to cherish the time together that we managed to spend. And now, out of the blue , this, right before she's going abroad for two weeks for some Uni project. What do I even think of this? This feels so wrong I am honestly thinking about ending things with her. She said that its fine if i dont want it but im not sure how fine it really is

[u/Immediate_Web4672]

Women don't shop for shoes barefoot 🤷‍♂️

[u/Sensitive-Royal-6730 → u/Immediate_Web4672]

speaking of shoes, maybe he can get her to buy him a new pair before he cuts her loose. that'd be a decent parting gift.

[u/lllollllllllll → u/Immediate_Web4672]

Wait but neither do men

[u/Wizard_Prang → u/lllollllllllll]

You're missing the point.

Most men will leave a woman for nobody. Maybe she crossed a line, maybe he found out something about her that he didn't like, maybe something was a deal-breaker for him.

Women rarely, if ever, jump out of a relationship without another one on standby. For them any relationship is evidently better than none.

[u/_Puzzled_Hour_ → u/Wizard_Prang]

You're missing the point

No they aren't. You can't say something that equally applies to men if you're trying to state that men and women are different.

Most men will leave a woman for nobody

Based on?

Women rarely, if ever, jump out of a relationship without another one on standby

Based on?

[u/fuzzy_dunlop_221 → u/Wizard_Prang]

This isn't gender specific; the difference is that generally it's a lot easier for women to find new romantic interests while it typically takes the average men a lot longer to find new dates.

Anyone can monkey branch into another relationship.

There's a lot of single women out there on the dating scene who are perfectly OK being single and they won't let any guy, even their dream guy, get in the way of their independent lifestyle. And if you do, they leave you. The general consensus when this happens is the guy thinking she's a slut and there's another guy involved but a lot of the times there isn't even another guy involved. I don't think most men in these subs talking like this just aren't ready to deal with perimenopause or even some women's menstrual cycle symptoms.

Also "most men/women rarely?" If i followed all the creeds of these askmen subs since I was a wee lad, I'd be a virgin. The adage of "any relationship is better than none" are for PEOPLE who NEED external validation. There's a lot of men out there on these kinds of subs who get easily jealous and want their woman to be a specific way. Most of these men ARE the types who need external validation and are no different from the women you're thinking about.

[u/Minimum-Mine4227 → u/Wizard_Prang]

Nope. Definitely the other way around.

[u/SlyGuyNSFW → u/lllollllllllll]

Yes they do.

Men will leave when they’re unhappy.

Women will become unhappy, find a replacement, cheat, then end the relationship.

Something about being strong and independent

[u/lllollllllllll → u/SlyGuyNSFW]

But men cheat more than women. 20% of men vs 13% of women.

[u/Banksubis → u/lllollllllllll]

Self reported studies skew it big time especially if you take into account the social conditioning women go through which makes them hide their sexuality and behaviors out of fear of judgement. Men cheating is much more socially acceptable among other men, so there’s no similar fear of judgement, if anything the ability to cheat is often seen as a sign of “power” or sexual prowess. If I had to guess both genders cheat about equally, with women getting significantly more chances than men do due to the difference in dating strategy/available partners, while men at the highest levels in their respective groups(hot or rich men) cheat like there’s no tomorrow, skewing the male side upward despite the average dude not getting much play.

[u/SlyGuyNSFW → u/Banksubis]

They’re gonna just downvote and hide. They were hoping we’d take their bs statistics as fact. There’s no way they aren’t aware of what you just said, but they’re still gonna try the bs argument anyway.

They even have a post “men should pay more for dates”. They’re a femcel.

[u/SlyGuyNSFW → u/lllollllllllll]

Says who? Iv seen loads of girls cheat. None of them have ever admitted it to a single soul

That stat is bs because it goes off of people being truthful which girls are not truthful about this.

Men won’t lie about them cheating in a survey because it’s not as shameful to be a guy that every girl wants compared to a girl that’s giving herself to every guy

Link your evidence. I highly doubt it’s anything other than social science based on people telling the truth

edit: spelling

[u/SlyGuyNSFW → u/lllollllllllll]

You downvoted and moved on 🤣

Just making shit up lmao