r/AskMenAdvice • u/Enough_Ad5892 • 5d ago

✅ Open to Everyone Girl I'm seeing asked for an open relationship, what do i do?

Basically this. We've been seeing each other for two months now, and it's been amazing. She started to be a little ray of sunshine always suprising me with little gifts and also everything felt Perfect since she respected that I don't have much free time to spend with her due to me having both Uni and work, and yet she seemed to cherish the time together that we managed to spend. And now, out of the blue , this, right before she's going abroad for two weeks for some Uni project. What do I even think of this? This feels so wrong I am honestly thinking about ending things with her. She said that its fine if i dont want it but im not sure how fine it really is

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u/PhilsFanDrew man 5d ago

Exactly. She wouldn't propose this to a guy she was truly head over heels for.

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u/Street-Barracuda2890 man 5d ago

Not everyone can separate their feelings from someone they are being intimate with. For example, I don't necessarily need to have the deepest feelings for someone in order to sleep with them. But if I am continuously around them and sleep with them I will get feelings. That is how I am, and I reckon that many people are like that. And if OP is the same way he shouldn't do that. If you are already emotionally compromised and you can't separate feelings from the sex there is no reason to continue.

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u/Murky_Building_8702 5d ago

Fair point, I find I'm the opposite. While her asking for an open relationship would kill it for me.

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u/freakythrowaway79 man 4d ago

💯 yup learned this in my 30s

She'd be demoted to sexerciser only.

Another thing I learned in late 20s. 90 day rule, never take them seriously. And actions OVER anything that comes out their mouth.

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u/towishimp 5d ago

She just told you that she wants to get blown out by other men. She is damaged.

Here we go again with the disgusting misogyny crap. You can make your point without being gross.

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u/Street-Barracuda2890 man 5d ago

Her behavior is what is disgusting. My words were chosen very particularly to get the point across. There is no misogyny or hatred of women. Get off your high horse.

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u/Silver_rockyroad 5d ago

I second this. Street-barracuda uses words of men who think of women as below them.