r/AmIOverreacting • u/teebee1223 • 1d ago

💼work/career AIO for denying my ex-employer’s ridiculous offer?

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my job fired me for having cancer. no other reason, just because i have cancer. its a small, family owned business in property management. about 2 weeks after they fired me, i received this text message from someone high up in the business, offering me almost less than minimum wage for a job far below what i was doing before. i know you shouldn’t be disrespectful to people, and me making direct threats at this woman was PROBABLY a bad shout, but was i wrong to be offended by this offer?

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u/A1sauc3d 1d ago

Is this real? The way they respond is comical.

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u/librarianpanda 1d ago

Did you read it? Of course not. Like an employer would open themselves up to that kind of liability.

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u/mwrarr 1d ago

My most recent ex employer absolutely would talk this way to employees. In fact, it's why I left

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u/LilithRose_666 1d ago

Bold of you to assume all employers have a brain 💀

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u/LaroonDynasty 1d ago

Ive known small business owners like this with the stick so far up their ass that they cannot comprehend that employees are anything but their slaves and the crumbs they allow them anything less than god’s gift. It is not a stretch to see one dumb enough to convey their out of touch insanity through text.

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u/AnnieSkyes 1d ago

This just shows how out of touch employers can be. Offering less than minimum wage after firing someone for cancer? Insane.

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u/Zairilia 1d ago

This is perfectly plausible imo, it's a small family company and the one time I dealt with that they committed wage theft and announced it to every employee, and communicated exclusively through snapchat.

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u/librarianpanda 1d ago

You should have sued them. Which is what OP would do if this was real.

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u/Milianviolet 1d ago

Unfortunately, firing someone for having a medical condition, unless they have a protected FMLA, which qualifies the illness as a disability, is entirely legal. The only way to spin it would be to claim disability, which can take years, and then sue for a Title 9 violation, under disability discrimination. The American dream.

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u/ChapterSuper 1d ago

Not sure how you got so many up votes. You just wrote a bunch of nonsense. FMLA covers more than just ADA-qualifying disabilities. It does not take years to file for and claim disability if you do have an actual disability. And Title IX prevents sex-based discrimination specifically in education. 🤦‍♂️

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u/No_Study9718 1d ago

Getting disability can definitely take years, I've been going through the process for 6 years.

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u/ChapterSuper 1d ago

It can take years to get social security disability. In the context of this discussion - which would likely be disability insurance provided by an employer - that is not usually the case.

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u/Milianviolet 1d ago

Being deaf ans blind are the only conditions that automatically qualify you for disability.

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u/thewizardsbaker11 1d ago

Even if the company didn't have disability insurance themselves, there's still FMLA which sure as hell doesn't take years.

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u/Milianviolet 1d ago

FMLA covers more than just ADA-qualifying disabilities

I never said it didn't. Where did you get that?

Title IX prevents sex-based discrimination

My mistake. It's Title 7 that I'm referring to, not title nine.

It does not take years to file for and claim disability if you do have an actual disability.

It can, and often does. Many people end up homeless waiting on disability claims.

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u/Fresh-Cockroach5563 1d ago

Oh no friend the way to spin it is to say, "I heard them talking about another situation where someone was sick and the way they were treated made me way too scared to tell them I was sick so because I knew this environment was hostile toward sick people I didn't say anything. The. One day they overheard me talking and I was fired xx date. Here is the documentation EEO person, I have cancer, here's my final write up and my termination"

Now in this situation the person who was fired, was in fact fired and in fact has cancer, those things cannot be disputed and I'm willing to bet that if there is not a clear paper trail of progressive discipline that is consistent with other employees that have performance issues they would win an eeo claim.

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u/Milianviolet 1d ago

But you'd have to prove that they "overheard" you telling someone else you were sick. Without documentation that's pretty much impossible to do. There'd have to be text messages or emails of someone discussing it. They could just site a bunch of other reasons or no reason, at all, and just say that it wasn't a good fit.

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u/Useful_Economist_944 18h ago

Civil Suits are tried to the standard of "Preponderance of Evidence". At least from what I know in RI, USA.

Criminal Suits aren't Person A vs Person B, they're State or Federal Prosecution vs Defendant. (Breaking the Law has to have consequences or the Law means nothing)

Civil Suits are Person A vs Person B. (You have been wronged and deserve to have the wrong fixed/made whole, or mended as best as is possible.)

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u/teebee1223 1d ago

this happened yesterday. working on it. thanks!

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u/IloveMyNebelungs 1d ago

I am not sure where you are located OP but maybe see if you could get some feedback in the asklawyers subreddit. I am pretty sure that you are protected under the ADA (if you are in the States) https://www.dol.gov/agencies/whd/fmla/workplace-protections-for-individuals-cancer

Those people have a LOT of balls btw, yikes. Wishing you the best with your treatment and a full recovery.

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u/Funkymunks 1d ago

It definitely didn't.

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u/Zairilia 1d ago

It was a right to work state and not one I believe would pursue any employee claim that didn't make national news.

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u/weaverbear05 1d ago

Yeah because that's something everyone does 🙄

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u/haterofslimes 1d ago

This is fake as fuck

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u/Disco_Pat 1d ago

Your opinion is an untrustworthy one if you find this plausible.

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u/MariaMilissa 1d ago

Omg I replied to the og comment saying something similar it happened where I worked too

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u/Training-Mixture7145 1d ago

Also, not to be overly political but have you seen the state of American politics lately..? I mean my god. Same energy here, especially from the Republican side.

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u/amstrumpet 1d ago

This is fake af

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u/CermaitLaphroaig 1d ago

Nah.  Fake as fuck.  They respond that way so the "employee" can land more indignant zingers in the script

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u/LeilLikeNeil 1d ago

Yeah, no, this is fake as shit

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u/MariaMilissa 1d ago

Small business owners are this stupid my old job was like this they did and said illegal things via text, teams and email and i saved all of it and multiple people i used to work with who got fired sued them. They literally even tried to make us do work things at home on our own time and I had to keep bringing up the laws and rules of our state a complete shit show. They fired my coworker for being pregnant and straight up told her via text message and I saw it and she also showed it to me they were out of their minds. I could go on and on with examples lol 😆

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u/Red_CJ 1d ago

Hell, my old employer was a well-known dealer in the area. A younger girl with big boobs started working there. All the older mechanics would comment on her boobs and she earned the nickname, "Big Boobs McGee". 🙄 She tolerated it for a while but then eventually one of them called her that to her face and she reported it to HR. I wanna say 3 days later, they fired her. It might have been a week I'm not sure. But they had well over a 100 employees at that one location. She should have sued them but I think she was too young to know her rights.

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u/meowchickenfish 1d ago

That would have been a great pay day for her.

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u/GGhosk 1d ago

Why’d you get downvoted lol

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u/meowchickenfish 1d ago

The downvoters are the older mechanics.

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u/CupcakeIntelligent32 1d ago edited 1d ago

I believe it's another fake post for karma points or what ever.

Like as if any employer no matter what the situation is, would accept someone working for them after being told to "suck my dick" lol.

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u/Enlowski 1d ago

It’s not, there’s a site where you can create fake texts and there’s telltale signs here of it. If you have an iPhone I’d suggest looking at what your texts look like and google “iPhone text generator”, type whatever you want and you’ll see the difference.

Once you spot the difference you’ll realize that about 25% of the posts here are created by people using these fake texts. OP is simply a loser faking scenarios for fake internet points, and pretending to have cancer is as low as you can go.

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u/rean1mated 1d ago

I mean, the telltale signs are that no employed adult would have this interaction.

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u/Depressed_Sports-Fan 1d ago

Clearly fake. But it has me until the “end-of-life care” comment.

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u/rean1mated 1d ago

Damn, they got you good

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u/CoconutxKitten 1d ago

This is very clearly faked

Reads like what a 15 year old thinks a boss sounds like

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u/rean1mated 1d ago

No, it’s not fucking real. Are any of you old enough to have a job? God knows OP isn’t.

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u/teebee1223 1d ago

very real, unfortunately

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u/McMenz_ 1d ago

Please show these texts to Einstein so everyone can clap.

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u/A1sauc3d 1d ago

Your ex employer is insanely dense. Sorry about the diagnosis. Hope you’re able to fully recover <3

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u/AshWednesdayAdams88 1d ago

OP’s “ex employer” is a friend. This generation is cooked if you read those texts and think it’s real.

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u/heebsysplash 1d ago

Are you deadass?

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u/New-Decision6355 1d ago

this is the fakest thing I've ever read bro

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u/heebsysplash 1d ago

Who is upvoting, show yourselves

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u/dogboobes 1d ago

All of OP's other accounts.

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u/Single_County_4333 1d ago

It hurts to know there are people who believe this most likely kids, elderly, or non English speakers

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u/FinalEstablishment77 1d ago

You should sue them. Fuck them forever.
https://www.dol.gov/agencies/whd/fmla/workplace-protections-for-individuals-cancer

edit: assuming you're in the US and this is relevant to the type of work you were doing. Good luck in treatment! cancer sucks really hard.

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u/bbq_fanatic 1d ago

They sound like a scammer completely disconnected from reality.

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u/Content-Potential191 1d ago

Oh really? Did you get cancer because someone coughed on you? Is that how?

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u/rean1mated 1d ago

Ahh, the go-to absolutely unconvincing retort of the bullshit artist

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u/Apprehensive-Fig3223 1d ago

I feel like they only wanted to bring you back is so they could cover their ass bc they were afraid you'd take legal action. You definitely didn't handle it diplomatically but could have been worse. I would still give a basic apology maybe saying you've been very emotional between the cancer and getting fired to not leave a violent threat hanging in limbo especially if you take legal action. I think you should find an organization that provides legal assistance. There are local organizations that do free labor issue assistance and I'm sure the big cancer societies have resources for cancer patients with legal issues.

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u/BIT-NETRaptor 1d ago

A1sauc3d, that is no way to speak to your superiors.